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The New Faces on Match.com

Ginnie was thrilled to be Single and Free. Freshly divorced she made ‘the move.’

After living in tiny Centerville, VA she moved to Our Nation’s Capital and moved in with her younger, sister Tiffany.

Ginnie’s sister had started with an entry level accounting job at the FBI and quickly rose to the Forensics ranks and was happily ensconced in a postion where she reviewed and analyzed financial institution fraud.

The sisters spent a great deal of time sipping Pinot Noir and talking about men, dating, creeps, kooks, cool guys and romance. They were both up for meeting their “Date for Life.” Tiff had dabbled on J.Swipe, Tinder, Plenty of Fish and wasn’t any too pleased with the guys who cropped up.

Her big “crush” on JSwipe, the Jewish Dating Site,  had pursued her with a flood of text messages that had her hook-like and sinker. At one point, he sugggested she call him. Rather than the 2 pm suggested time, she was free to call him at 3 pm – and she got his message machine. His message, “Hi, this is Sean Sullivan. Please leave a message. Slainte” Whoa! An Irish Sean on a Jewish site? Turns out that was nothing compared to the number of married men she found on Tinder.

The parade of DC men were…different. DC Comics different…The sisters knew who and what they were looking for…Wish them luck!

Déjà Vu – are all Bay Area single men alike?

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 Kitty (57, Napa girl, RN, Pastels painter, Zinfandel fan, Scorpio) has been suddenly-single-again, for three years. Not one to waste time- she dabbled in a half-dozen dating sites including: Ourtime, the Right Stuff, JDate, Match.com – and by big mistake, Adult Friend seeker. (Note: avoid any site with the word “Adult” in the title.)

In the beginning, Kitty surmised there were only 5 Types of Single Men:

  1. I’m So Cool and Single: Perpetually playing the field – for decades.
  2. Recently Widowed: Deer in the headlights: seeking a nurse or a purse.
  3. Recently Divorced: Hungry and hunting – not Good-will-hunting. Dating around and getting horizontal and bed hopping was a major goal.
  4. Kind of Separated: A married man –a wanna be playboy – playing the field and claimed to be doing research. His wife didn’t understand him.
  5. Desperately Divorced – cannot adjust to being single and needs someone to cook, clean, iron his socks, and hand him the remote control.

Here Kitty…

 However, after three “Get Your Dating Mojo Moving” sessions – we amped up her profile and her pictures (no Selfies, please) and Kitty agreed to take off her cynical shroud and get in the dating game. It is all about attitude.

Turn On Your Filter

 Once cynical and very pessimistic, Kitty met a plethora of playboys and dead-end dates. Why? Perhaps her filtering system was on “low.” She had low expectations and took low-to-minimal time getting to know a date prior to their first meeting. We addressed the importance of taking the time to talk to your potential date. (At 57, Tinder/aka Hook ups Anonymous is not your friend.)

Initial phone calls and emails may not be the Holy Grail – however, they reveal a lot about a person. Asking questions and conversing with a total stranger should last way more than ten minutes.

Ask questions, talk on the phone, email one another a few times. Don’t get caught up in a morass of emails. Remember, jumping to conclusions and blithely dating –anyone- can be a waste of time, money, and tough on the self-esteem.

Be patient and have fun out there.

 

“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.”

                                             John Quincy Adams

 

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Suddenly SIngle and Perplexed by this New Chapter?
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“Tinder” is the night? Not so much

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Tinder is the Night?

The Big Daddy of Online dating, Barry Diller, the King of of IAC, billionaire media mogul, is the money behind a dozen of your favorite Dating Sites- including Match.com, Chemistry, OKCupid, Our Time, and Senior People Meet (See  Chart Below)

Diller’s brand-new game in town called Tinder (www.tinder.com) with an estimated 50 million users. Really.

Ouch! Tinder hurt my feelings

Patsy- single, bon vivant and very corporate, 43, said,  “Tinder is brutal. It hurt my feelings.”  Intrigued by the new app, she played the game: downloaded the app, did the GPS connection, and provided a handful of cute photos and connected to her Facebook page. She was ready, willing, and able to meet men her age in the San Mateo area.   Always open for new experiences, she thought Tinder would be fun and novel.

[Note: 85% of all Tinder users are in the 18-35 year old demographic]

Hang ups and Hook ups?

Her experience was it was a “Hook up site.” She scanned a few dozen photos of men her age and concluded that most guys only wanted to meet for a drink and then? She is more of a of “Let’s go for a hike; want to check out Santana Row, Santa Cruz Boardwalk, Carmel, the Rosicrucian Museum?”  It was all about drinks. Next.

Patsy admits she Google’s everyone she meets – all of her clients and her dates. It is what she does.

She also feels it’s important to speak to somebody in the phone before going to the trouble of hair/makeup and getting dressed up, driving to and from and spending time getting to know a new potential beau.

How dare you Left Swipe me!

On the other hand, her niece, Betsy, 25 thinks “Tinder: is the next best thing to gluten-free, low-calorie, pre-sliced bread.  She calls it the fickle finger of fate and likens it to “shopping” for a good-looking guy.   She quickly scans 50 pictures and “Right Swipes”  on a dozen guys that she thinks might be fun.  She said she’s had more first dates in three months than she did in the past three years.

Betsy was a fan of Tinder – now, things have cooled.

If you ask her about second and third dates, there’s a long pause.  She admits “Not so much.” Tinder is like a cafeteria of pretty active flirting- and some hook ups and dead ends.

She calls it ‘Fishing in shallow water.’   C’est fini.

Both Patsy and Betsy are more intrigued with Whats App.

So many Apps – so little time.cupid

Big Daddy Barry Diller owns these sites you are so familiar with:

  • About.com
  • Ask.com
  • BlackPeopleMeet.com
  • Chemistry.com
  • LoveandSeek.com
  • Match.com
  • Meetic
  • Mindspark Interactive Network
  • Notional
  • nRelate
  • OkCupid
  • OurTime.com
  • SeniorPeopleMeet.com
  • SinglePeopleMeet.com
  • Singlesnet.com
  • SpeedDate.com
  • Sportspickle.com
  • Tinder (app)
  • Urbanspoon

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