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Dating Hoax 101:Hooked by a Catfish


She said she was 42, divorced, amorous, available and waiting for Mr. Right.

Her pictures were stunning – she was a tall, lanky, brunette – often posing in clothing befitting a lingerie model. That was sexy – yet, strange –as she said she was trained as an attorney. She readily admitted she only had a few clients- very wealthy clients – who flew her to their resort-like homes for consultations. She practiced Business Law.

And she didn’t like to talk about her profession.

On the free dating website, her name is Venus. She loves the beach, puppies, NCIS, negligees, chocolates and roses. As a rule, after the exchange of two emails she generally gives out her phone number. She is very friendly and flirty.

Mike met Venus online five years ago and they have been chatting on the phone ever since. He is married – his wife doesn’t understand him. Mike would really like to meet her in person – however, Venus is always in court. He understands – she is very famous. He lives in Wyoming. He is in love with Venus and is willing to wait.


Tim met Venus online six months ago. He is ready to move from Texas to San Francisco to be near her. He is a mechanic- and wants to work at Tesla.  They talk on phone every day. Her Skype is broken. Darn. He wants to fly out and take her to dinner at “A fancy place in Frisco – her choice.” She tells him – she would love it – when the big case is over. Her last case took two years to settle. He can’t wait to see her penthouse in the Marina District of San Francisco – it has views of “all the bridges” and she can hear “the trolleys” and smell the French Bread being baked. Tim hangs on her every word.

Tim is trusting and in love. Not a computer -guy – he would never think of Googling Venus – her law firm, her home address with all those classic San Francisco treats. Hence, the successful masquerade by Venus.

As Fate would have it: Venus (aka Janice B.) lives in Fremont. She is single/never married, 55, and for a month, was a nanny for an attorney and his wife. She is a clerk at Kohl’s. She is clever, lonely and really good at “spinning yarns”  according to her sister whose hesitates to call Janice a liar. In five years, Janice has met and engaged – over the phone and texting- with two dozen men online. She has never met any of the men in person.

Buyer Beware: There are schools of scammers called Catfish – who pretend to be something they aren’t…lying is second nature and there are no ethics involved. Think: Web of lies


Catfish: verb: To be baited by a person ‘trolling/trawling the internet – pretending to be someone thery aren’t.

Dr Phil has done a public service show – exposing these Catfish scam artists.  See Here: 

See: Catfish definition

See the MTV Show Catfish


The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception.
Friedrich Nietzsche


Which of these 4 online dating notes are scams? Can you tell?

smallwwer26831_20130808-2Scams are rampant on the Internet and yes, Binkie, Dating sites get their fair share of nefarious creeps praying to prey on you. Caveat Emptor, baby.

To Tell the Truth: Which of the following four online dating notes are scams? Can you pick them out?

TIP: Look for inconsistences, obvious grammar and spelling errors, USA geography mistakes. If it looks a like a copy and paste – it is.

The following four letters are “un-edited.” Have at it.


1.) From “Peter”   OKCupid – from ‘unknown’

Ms. Jeanette, Am very happy and glad to read an email from you. its really shows how much you’re interested in knowing more about me while i want you to know that am interested in getting to know more about you either, Well, I hope I have your attention for  moment now!  Am Peter…I was born in brooklyn,New York,,

  • But presently working in hong kong on an Oil rig Project and will be done in a month
  • Am 6.2 fit tall with Brown eyes
  • I’m 83kg      (Name one guy from Brooklyn who weighs in kg’s?)
  • with Average body structure,
  • I’m a white man. (Thou doth protest too much, Mr Nigeria)
  • with just a small amount of Italian blood, not much but I am proud of it.

My ancestors came from England. Have not yet Traced everything, I’ve been divorced for 6yrs, also i have a Son and 3 grand kids who means the word and everything to me.   I am a romantic, sensitive man with a sense of humor and kind,loving,devoted heart and soul. Contact me on gmail. All mylov, Peter


2.) From “Dennis in Haywood, CA”

Hello dearie, You are so pretty beautiful. I am lucky you write in me. am able to love and surround the loved ones with my love and support.I like to make people happy and to be happy with them, Some of my hobbies are: photography, dancing, movies, occasional shopping and spending time with my friends,

I teach Yoga and give dance lessons like salsa and karaoke,( Really?)

I want someone who can just be them selves and that is enough..I can keep and value the harmony of the relationship and friendship with anybody.

I am a good friend to my friends and a good person to talk to.You will never get bored with me because I am fun to be with.I do  drink occassionally and do not smoke. We be gud. Ok by. Use my yahoo email pleez.

Oh, no! Horrible photo...

Real Photo?

3.) Henry KLM from Sausalito

(Well, he admits, he really lives in Nicaragua…and would love to meet at a romantic resort in the Dominican Republic)    Hello, pretty lady. We are soulmates, I can tell. Can you?

I want someone who is God fearing, loving, caring, kind, honest, with much love and affection …. I am interested in knowing more about you and letting you know so much about me. Me? i want to have a happy and wonderful person relationship.I am honest,kind,friendly and good looking man,with good sense of humor. I am a good dad.

Many kids have I. If you want to know more ask me:-) Iworked hard. Cant wait to met you and dance. I do yoga,swim ride my horses. Do you?

So please tell me more about yourself what is your full name? What you do for fun?,You live alone?, What is your best color?, What is the best food?

Are You ready for a serious relationship? What are the highest qualities you want in a man? Hope to read back from you…

Smiles, Henrycupid4.) George from Los Gatos

Hey, Miranda

I liked your photos and enjoyed reading your profile. We actually have things in common (Dive bars, symphony- season ticket holder, Sonoma wine-tasting) and I have never had a cronut. Look at my profile. I’d love to talk to you – if you are comfortable with that.

Hope to hear from you, George

Quelle Surprise: The first three letters are super scams. If one lands in your mail-box – do not pass Go – forward it to the powers that be at the dating site. They may – or may not- act on it. Be Aware and Be Safe.

Gorilla photo_2

SEE More Page Larkin SCAM Alerts here:

1) Scams: How many frogs? The Princess and the fraud

2.) Con Men are around…

3.) Check out grammar, nonsense and plenty of mistakes:


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Dating 101: Online Scams – all the same?

Dating 101: How to spot an online Dating Scam 

Cre8tive Cathy is a neophyte. After reading Love in 90 Days (love in 90days.comby Dr Diane Kirschner she eagerly signed up for a “Top US Online Dating Site.”

She writes she as been inundated by phony emails like this one from Faux Fred. A quick study, she says spammers and scammers all do the same things. The first clue is the plethora of choppy, nonsensical, sentences in broken English. Spelling and punctuation errors are rampant. Finally, scammers  always want to get off the dating site and urge contact via email – spelled out to go un-noticed by the police.

 Can you spot the scam artist bait?

Clue: Faux Fred is looking for someone “stubborn, sarcastic, funny, quirky, maybe a little odd in her own special way.” A true jock, he writes: “i enjoy having fun moment, skiing and golfing.” Really?


Hello Pretty,

 I must confess your profile pix and the way your carefully outlined your profile out is another thing that has given me the boost to want to talk to you and perhaps meet with you,few things you should know about me…My names are Fred Antonio…I have been on for few days now and have been reading your profile over and over again. And i think we have some things in Common. I am a single Dad for 7years now, I am 60 years old… I am young at heart with fun, dreams and a big heart… as easy to get along with as you’ll find.

I always try to bring mindfulness and awareness to my existence,i enjoy having fun moment, skiing and golfing.swimming is what i do for my daily exercise when it’s warm.

 Intelligence is definitely attractive, but being TOO serious about everything is a TURN OFF. I am looking for someone intelligent, stubborn, sarcastic, funny, quirky, maybe a little odd in her own special way lol with a great sense of humor and a glass half full philosophy on life.

 You know a journey of a thousand miles always begins with a step and what is Life without a smile from a dearest woman?

What can be better than to give your love and tenderness to your beloved woman?we do not know what is waiting for us tommorrow,but i know exactly that i will be waiting for your next letter to get to know you much better.

***I hardly check my account and probably will be off there soon

so i will like us to communicate via personal email if you don’t mind ***so we can get to know each other more better. email me on my personal email: fredtonio (AT) HOTMAIL DOT COM

so i can email you and tell you more about my self, my job, and send you more pictures of me and see where it goes from there.


Fred, Fredricka, Francine, Michale and Johnn – you name it – are all on leading dating sites – looking for you! Be careful out there.

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