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Merry Flirting Christmas – get with the program, Binkie

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Flirting is the gentle art of making two people happy- start with sharing a smile.

Start a happy holiday season by flirting now. Here are a handful of romantic role models to emulate:

Before breakfast, Chas buys two copies of the San Francisco Chronicle. He reads one and offers a second copy to an attractive, single woman in one of the three cafés he frequents each week. He’s famous for this.

Coffee, tea, or me? After a month, three times a week, of handing a double espresso, to her “Favorite Cute Customer with no wedding ring and a ready smile”- Janice  wrote her phone number on the sleeve of his coffee cup. Romance is brewing.

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Jack Z in Santa Rosa is famous for flirting and for the  “I thought you two were sisters,” comment to the mothers of the women he dates. Believe it or not, mothers-of -an-age- love this.

Frank X. buys bags of Hershey kisses and says he drops one or two off on tables of interesting women at the library, Peet’s or cafes- when he is strolling through. Jeremy – the flirt-  is famous for giving away free kisses and smiles.

Valerie in the Marina writes that she looks at man, catches his eye and turns away. She looks back and smiles. She says it works every time. Oh, la, la  Remember: eye contact is an icebreaker and a romantic catalyst. Go for it.

Stanley, the dapper crossing guard on Geary Boulevard, tells every woman he sees she looks “Lovely this morning, ma’am.” Women actually cross the street just to talk to Edward. Think about it. That’s so cool.

Henry, the flirting waiter at Rigolo in Laurel Village, greets and kids around with every female customer who comes to the small cafe. He is always ready with a compliment and a smile. Needless to say, he’s a very popular guy.

Lynne R, the tall redhead at the checkout clerk at the Masonic Trader Joe’s, a polyglot, greets customers in their respective homeland lingo. People love this and make a bee-line to her and ‘check’ her out.  To say she is popular – only begins to describe her.

A simple “hello” – a great beginning. Try it.

Love Story at 80

Most mornings you can see Hank and Joanne, holding hands, walking up and down the streets in Presidio Heights. He wears a Cal baseball cap and she wears a red Stanford hat. The two octogenarians talk and laugh and Hank frequently picks up newspapers and tosses them up to neighbor’s front doors. The two exude an affection and attraction that most aspire. Some think it’s good luck to see this darling devoted couple.

Now is the time to throw off “shy and subdued” and get out and flirt.

Love is in the air and everywhere. Seek out bouquets of mistletoe, wear some on your lapel, and flirt frequently.

“All women are flirts, but some are restrained by shyness, and others by sense.”     Rochefoucauld

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Sweet Easter! Chocolate bunnies and hot cross buns in San Francisco

On your mark, get set, get ready for an Easter Celebration

A happy Easter conjures up images of colored eggs, chocolate bunnies, buffets, bountiful Easter baskets, tulips and Gin fizzes.

San Francisco has an embarrassment of riches when it comes to gourmet Easter treats.


 Five Classic San Francisco Sites  for Easter’s perfect preparations:

1. Varoom. Start the day with a cup of the best coffee in San Francisco: Blue Bottle Coffee.

2. Got Candy? San Francisco’s premiere candy store, aptly named, The Candy Store on Vallejo at Polk Street will dazzle you with the finest selection of yummiest candies “… one-of-a-kind boutique features walls lined with old-fashioned candy jars, shelves stocked with the finest confections from around the world, and nostalgic treats you probably haven’t seen in years.”




3. Fruit Heaven – Berries, melons, citrus, mangoes, 22nd and Irving Produce– best quality and bargain produce in all of San Francisco. Parking is pain – and, it’s worth it.

4. Best bakery in San Francisco? Bakery Tartin located at 600 Guerrero Street. You’ll think you time- traveled to Paris –Tartin has a perfectly sublime selection of the  highest quality pastries. Marvel over the  Chocolate Soufflé Cake, the Frangipane Tart,  the utterly divine croissant or frangipane croissant,   perhaps a double pain au chocolat or the tres yummy morning buns.  I dare you try one croissant.

5.Confused by chocolate? Do you die for  Godiva? Or really love Recchiuti? Perhaps you prefer San Francisco’s classic, plump chocolate  eggs from the all-time favorite: See’s.  Or, do you go for TCHO? Love truffles? XOX Truffles are rich, delicate, and filled with 27 flavors and totally addictive. Sweetly perched on Columbus Avenue across from the City’s stellar Graffeo Coffee.

If you are feeling a little famished after all that Saturday shopping? Get in line, there is always one, at Ella’s for the Best Brunch in San Francisco located at 500 Presidio/Arguello.

Remember, The Wise Words of the Easter Bunny:

* Don’t put all of your chocolate eggs in one basket.

* Walk softly and carry a big carrot.

* There’s no such thing as too much candy.

* Some bunny loves you: cute little tail attracts a lot of attention.

* Everyone is entitled to a bad hare day.

* Let all your happy thoughts multiply like rabbits.

* Keep your paws off other people’s jellybeans.

* The grass is always greener in someone else’s basket.


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Top 10 – where the boys are in San Francisco


Where does a woman in San Francisco go to meet men?

Extensive research indicates that men generally are not at the yarn store, in yoga classes, in cooking classes or attending a spirituality weekend. Remember the 1960’s bikini-beach-boy-meets-girl movie, “Where the Boys Are”? Take a page from that book.

Finding your true north

Today it doesn’t require a GPS, compass or a map to locate men in San Francisco. Seek and you shall find. The first installment:

photo_6303_20080612gloveThe Top 10 Places to Meet Men

1. Giants Baseball GamesThere are more single men at one Giants game than all of Union Street on any four Friday nights combined.

You do the math. Baseball is bigger, better and more entertaining than the old stand bys: NPR, the New Yorker and Meet the Press.  At a Giants game you get a whole team (25 men on a team – 9 on the field). These athletes are all at the top of their game, literally. In addition, you get shopping: T-shirts, accessories, hats; granted, orange / black is the complete color palette. There is a Jumbo-tron for even more sensory overload- exciting music, food and drink everywhere and a totally convivial atmosphere. What’s not to like?

2. REI – Guys are into verbs.

They run, jump, jog, hike, climb, camp, spelunk, swing, hit, paddle, row, lift, toss, throw, thump, thwack, bounce and batter…you get the idea. And what better store to buy all those handy objects to do verbs with? REI is the ultimate sporting goods store. Also Sports Basement and Sports Authority.

The strategy, ladies, is to ask questions. As a rule, men who frequent sporting goods store generally know from table tennis and fly rods and avalanche transceivers. Care about a carabiner? You’ll learn ‘quick-draw’ has nothing to do with guns and that information on the Seven Simple Machines you learned in sixth grade may come in handy (pulley, lever, wedge, etc.) If you want to know the difference between tents and tense –ask a man.

3. Wine Tasting Events – See the East Bay Express, the Pacific Sun, and theChronicle’s Pink Section  for great updates on the 4-1-1- for Wine Events. We are very fortunate to live in Northern California and to have Napa and Sonoma mere miles away. Wine can be a pleasure, a hobby, a passion and a necessity. Well known fact: men flock to wine tasting events.   See  “ Top Ten Things to do in San Francisco”


Fall is in the air and the Wine Country is humming, “I’ve Got a Crush on You.”

It’s that time. Remember in college you asked every guy you met, “What’s your major?” Now the query of the age is, “What’s your favorite wine?”

4. Dog Walking – Crissy Field, Fort Funston, Stern Grove, I know a woman who borrowed her neighbor’s Black Lab to use as a prop when she walked through North Beach, and that’s how she met her beau. Yes, a new meaning to ‘attention getting devices.’ Dogs: not just man’s best friend, anymore.

5. Andronico’s/Mollie Stones/Trader Joe’s/Bryans – Mondays and Friday night – 6pm – 9pm. Grocery Stores  are teeming with single men. Women tend to shop on Saturdays and Wednesdays – and men tend to shop on Friday/Monday (yes, this applies to Safeway, Rainbow and Whole Foods)

For more info: See Saturday in San Francisco and tomorrow’s column:  

The Conclusion of the Top Ten Places to Meet Men in San Francisco.

Observations re: Getting Specialized with Bicycles, golf, more wine and the gym.dog2_7501_20080925Dog Walking

Absolutely what not to wear at 50: playing dress up?


“Fashions fade, style is eternal.”

Yves Saint Laurent

Prolific Romance writer, Danielle Steel, complains vehemently  that  women in San Francisco don’t dress well.

In a Wall Street Journal article she commented that San Franciscans all look that they are ready ‘to go camping.’  She said that City Girls were simply too casual – tromping about in hiking boots and shorts.   Is there truth in all jest?

Take that off: it’s not Halloween and you’re not 15

Okay, so the Steve Urkel nerdy-look (fake, over-sized, glasses with plastic black frames, tight flood pants, plaid shirts and striped T-shirts, Beatle boots) is de rigueur for the teens and 20’s in San Francisco. Even GQ has a new stable of hipster wannabe teen models – wearing yellow shoes, “pegged” plaid plants and hats half-cocked.

Kids! You’ve got to love them- not dress like them.

Dress Your Own Age

Tiffany, 20-something, complains that her mother (49 and holding) dips into her closet and borrows her clothes- including her Uggs, Crocs, hoodies, and Jeggings. In an effort to stave off Father Time and Mother Nature, Mom tries to dress down a decade. Or two.

Not a Good Look-At your Age

Miniskirts, T-shirts and belly-button displays –those days are over, Binkie. Skin-tight tops, hip-hugging-for-life jeans, which don’t fit – sorry, Sally. That ship has sailed. The cold hard truth: a plus-sized body – or a mother pushing 50: back away from your daughter’s closet.  Ms. Steel would agree.

If Nobody Will Tell You

Never ask a sales clerk, “Do these $200 jeans and this $300 top make me look young?”  No salesclerk, on commission, is going to say, “Ma’am this is the Junior’s department, you should really be in the Mature or the Big Mama’s department, I’m just saying.”

Take a look at the much celebrated TV Show, “What Not to Wear” Then hit the library and peruse a copy  of How Not to Look Old.

Remember, Oprah? She still is offering advice about dressing up and dressing your age.

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  • Souvenir T-shirts
  • T-shirts with anything written on them
  • Overalls
  • Ripped jeans or acid-washed jeans
  • Shoulder pads
  • Overalls
  • Flannel shirts
  • Muumuus
  • Elastic-waist pants
  • Granny panties

Finally, let it be known: there is a moratorium on all Holiday sweaters (especially sweaters with pumpkins, Santa, reindeer, teddy bears.)

“Fashions fade, style is eternal. Yves Saint Laurent


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Top Ten Fun Events in the City – laugh, hop, gaze at the stars

The Top 10 Best Fun Activities to                          Go, See, and Do in San Francisco this weekendcropped-photo_378_20051108-1.jpg

1. Best Island Hopping Tour – also known as the Heaven and Hell Tour – see both Angel Island and Alcatraz. The Alcatraz & Angel Island in a day tour showcases two most famous and historically rich islands, Alcatraz Island and Angel Island State Park. The tour is offered on weekends April through June. Tour is approximately 5 1/2 hours long and departs from Pier 33 Alcatraz Landing at 9:30am.

2. Best Place to See a Poem as Lovely as a Tree- Golden Gate Park – Check out the hotbed of activity at the lovely Rose Garden To date, there are more than 60 spectacular rose beds planted on the premises. A huge treat for all the senses.

3. Best Place to Read, Recite, Reflect – after all it is National Poetry Month, the Shakespeare Garden at Golden Gate Park (See Top Ten Romantic Poems- Chick Magnet)

4. Best Place to Laugh in the Dark Just want to laugh? Get tickets to see ACT’s hysterical Vigil at the Geary Theater. The impressive cast is comprised solely of: Bay Area actor Marco Barricelli and Academy Award-winner Olympia Dukakis. Be prepared to laugh, a lot, and be highly entertained at the quirky, clever, human condition. Don’t miss it.

5. Best Place for Stargazing: One of the Bay Area’s most spectacular sights: Mount Tamalpais

6. Best Sans Clothes Beach: Baker (don’t forget the sunscreen) Beach

7. Best-dressed beach: Stinson Beach

8. Best Place to Watch Sunrise in San Francisco: How high can you go? Twin Peaks

9. Best Place to Learn Board sports – OR never be bored again – hop aboard Boards Sports classes

10. Best Place for Kite-boarding is Crissy Field – and in San Mateo Coyote Point. Both locales are great for watching or participating. Like standup? How do they do that? Standup Paddle Board . Cruise scenic Richardson Bay in Marin County. Have a great week end.

Check out these three Spring Fling Columns by Page Larkin:

Understanding Men: What are little boys made of?

Roses are Red; Violets are Blue – Women Love Poetry, How about you? Poetry as Chick Magnet

Flirting: not just for Friday anymore- the more the merrier.

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