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Dating: Swan Dive or Belly Flop?

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MerryKay really wanted to fall in love again.

She signed up for Plenty of Fish, OKCupid and Craigslist Singles. No Luck: Zip, zero, nada. She said she  had been kissing a lot of frogs and wanteded to meet her Prince Charming.

She made the big mistake of hiring a so-called Matchmaker and went on three dates with totally incompatible men in three months and lost the $3000 she paid upfront.

Tired of failure, she decided to try a new tact. She signed up for Speed Dating at a downtown hotel. Like a Girl Scout, Prepared, she had five questions to ask the men across the table:

1. Tell me about your best friend.
2. Tell me about you very worst job.
3. What was your very first car?
4. What was your best job?
5. Tell me about your family and where you grew up.

One guy said she sounded like a cop, another laughed at her and told her to “Relax.” The third guy got up and walked away. Defeated and dejected she crumpled the list and just smiled when the next man sat down. He took out his list of questions and interviewed her.

She had good answers. He was lost and adrift after he posed the queries and just sat there looking at his hands…

She hurried away from Speed Dating. Never to return. Next!

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Dating 101:All the good ones are taken

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All the good ones are taken

Steve went to brunch at a friend’s home on Sunday. He knew he was being ”fixed up,” yet, again. All of his married friends wanted him to be ”as happy as they were.”

For years, he had observed the happy couples -the snipes, the snips, the eye-rolling and wondered just how happy they actually were.

Then again, who was he to wonder. He had been on six different dating sites the last eight years, and was still “Just looking.”

Truth be told, hundreds of dates later, he concluded, it was a jungle out there. More often than not, he fell in love. And it was rarely reciprocated. Women that this age and stage (50/60) were tough. Either they had a “My Man Must Have List,” or they were “Just The Sex, Please,” one-night-stand-women.

He tried Tinder and met a beautiful redhead, his age, height, and education who just wanted someone “To hold her once a week,” that’s all. Next!

This time, his ”fix up” was Veronique. She was short, perky, with a head of curly gray hair and a perpetually surprised expression. Having been around the block a few times, he knew Veronique was 60, if a day, and she had some work done. No one look surprised all the time.

Nevertheless, she was lively and interesting. She been to Thailand (Red flag-he had seen 60 Minutes about Thailand being the plastic surgery capital.)

When she spoke passionately about “the twins,” he assumed she was talking about her kids. No. She had two Siamese cats, that were highly intelligent and she knew they spoke to her in Cat Language.

That was it.

Steve did his perfect guest, clear the table, help the hostess with dessert routine, and “Oh, my! Look at the time.” He had to go and pick up a friend at the airport. Floods of apologies.

He had this exit down to a science. Hasta la vista, baby.

Steve swore he would never get fixed up again.

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The Top 7 Places to Break up in San Francisco

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The List: Seven Best Break Up Spots in San Francisco.

Breaking Up – just like the song – is hard to do. Really. I’ve done it so many times I have become an authority on the subject.

“Some people come into our lives and leave sweet footprints on our hearts and we are never quite the same…other people come in and tap dance or stomp all over our hearts and we need a transplant...”

The following are the  Top 7  Places to Break up in San Francisco.

1. The Palace of the Legion of Honor.  After 10 a.m. before 5 p.m.  If you’re going to sever contact it must be done in a public place.  And have parking.  And a view.

Under Rodin’s “The Thinker”is perfect – on so many levels- historical and reeking with symbolism. The Term “over my dead body” is so fitting – as The Palace was built over the graves of hundreds of bodies….

2. Gino and Carlo’s in North Beach.

Best Saturday Afternoon break up sight…    No one will notice you  crying in your beer here. Majority of denizens are male, over 60, with red rimmed eyes and pasted to barstool. Let’s just say – the natives don’t get restless at the famed G n C’s…and you can deliver walking papers – and disappear. Stroll  over to XOXO Truffles for a chocolate “fix.”  (Columbus Avenue)

3. Bill’s Hamburgers on Clement St.

Weekdays 1 p.m. to 2 p.m. ~ perfect timing. Lively noisy, good atmosphere and servers have a sixth sense about leaving couples alone. Say your piece. Peace. And leave. Feel like walking? Ocean Beach is nearby… Harding Park and the Cliff House are both within a short distance.

4. The Palace Hotel Market Street and Montgomery

It’s elegant and historic. Just like your relationship?  The hotel housed presidents and starlets and has been the scene of mayhem and murder. It has withstood earthquakes and could withstand your trembler of a breakup. Do it in the Maxfield Parrish Pied Piper bar, teeming with the self-absorbed ~ and they will not notice you. You’ve got the security of masses of humanity, great art and a sumptuous men’s club atmosphere.

5. The Philosopher’s Club– West Portal- near the Tunnel.

This is a sports bar with herds of 20s and 30-year-olds and die hard drinkers. An ideal location for the hasta la vista, bon soir, ciao, speech. You can easily meet, greet, and breakup and walk out to catch the J., K., L., M. car and be home in less than an hour.

6.The Labyrinth at Grace Cathedral. On Nob Hill

The contemplative way. Meet at Grace Cathedral at 430PM on Thursday. Tell your soon to be EX you want to walk the labyrinth- inside. Revel in the peace and solitude of the labyrinth. Rehearse your breakup speech. When you finish, Slip into pew in the back of the beautiful cathedral.

Keep it short. Keep it sweet.  one-sided. Wish him or her goodbye.

And walk to the sanctuary and be seated. Lose yourself in Evensong from 5:15 p.m. to 6 p.m. and breathe.

Be with your thoughts. You Be in the presence of angels- the Cathedral boys choir. Take the time to revel in the day and the future.  The bar across the street at the Huntington Hotel – is another sanctuary.

7 .The Cliff House

Downstairs at Lookout Point. Overlooking Ocean Beach. Perfect location – birds swooping over the water, waves roiling – ocean sounds as a backdrop.

There’s something very soothing and calming about watching waves. It helps with the pacing of your message and easy parking makes for a facile departure. Free Parking. Golden Gate Park minutes away.

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Life is just a bowl of cherries, don’t take it serious, its mysterious. Life is just a bowl of cherries, so live and laugh and laugh at love, love a laugh, laugh and love.

Bob Fosse

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Men are like fine wine

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by Evelyn J.  age 88

A Real Man

A real man is a woman’s best friend. He will never stand her up and never let her down.

He will reassure her when she feels insecure and comfort her after a bad day.

He will inspire her to do things she never thought she could do; to live without fear and forget regret.

He will enable her to express her deepest emotions and give in to her most intimate desires.

Bronze buddah in the parkHe will make sure she always feels as though she’s the most beautiful woman in the room

and will enable her to be her most confident, sexy, seductive, and invincible self.

Hearts on a line

No, wait!  I’m sorry…I’m thinking of wine.

Never mind.

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Here are 5 Easy Ways to get  ‘Back in the Dating Saddle’ and ride off into sunset 

  1. You’re not alone. There are 20+ million singles back in the dating game. Like you, many singles are bored playing Solitaire and are ready to play a rousing game of Hearts. Get out of the house and join a walking, hiking, biking, rowing, kayaking, birding, debate, tennis, ping-pong, or spelunking club. See Meetup.com for hundreds of organizations in your zip code.
  2. Adopt and embrace the C’est la vie Attitude. You know, life is short and why waste time? Refrain from perching over a phone waiting for it to ring or checking text/emails 10 times a day. Your mother was right: “Go outside and play.” It’s up to you – perform the ‘due diligence’ and find out where the action is (See: Top Ten Places to Meet Men and Women in Marin and SF)
  3. Be Brave.  So you are ready to start dating again? Want to get back in the saddle? There will always be a Greek chorus of friends and family urging you to get back on the horse.  If you have images of a sweet pony- ride dancing in your head, be prepared. The recent foray in dating is more like the electronic bull you remember from that John Travolta movie, Urban Cowboy.  Best advice: “Better buckle up. It’s going to be a bumpy ride.”  Get in the game and enjoy the new adventures in the unique and novel: Suddenly Single Date World
  4. Volunteer Check out sporting events, wines tastings, the Presidio, Litquake or theMill Valley Film Festival Festival- all are worthwhile and fun. See San Francisco’s two very popular organizations- St Anthony’ and Onebrick opportunities. Check Craigslist for volunteer listings – do a good deed and meet new people. Volunteers are love in motion..
  5. Your Mother was wrong: Do talk to strangers. Everyday. It’s okay, and heartily recommended that you look them in the eye, smile and say “hi” to five strangers – every single day.” Have fun in the New Year. Start now.

It’s a well-known fact: Dating at 50 is a lot more fun than dating at 20.

Think about it: you are more interesting, smarter, sexier and have way better life’s stories. And, you don’t have to ask your mom to borrow the car. Come on in, the water is delicious.

WOMEN IN LITTLE BLACK DRESSESFACT: Women Love Men Who Dance

It’s not a secret: from the Dogpatch to Daly City, the Marina to Mission Street: women all heartily agreed:

men who dance are a lot more fun and a lot more interesting.

The Take Away: Gentlemen start your lessons. Take beginner dance lessons, have fun and practice, practice, practice.

Three Local Hot Spots for dancing

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Go out in the world and work like money doesn’t matter,

Sing as if no one is listening, 

Love as if you have never been hurt, 

and Dance as if no one is watching”

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 A fear of dating?

Now is the Time to curb your “Fear of Dating”

What are you afraid of, Binkie?

So what if you are: Fresh out-of-the-box, Right off the shelf, and new to the dating game?

There are a lot of metaphors for people who are just back in the dating game. Sometimes getting back into the swing of dating can be daunting. If you have been out of the game for a while, you may notice dating today is a little more complex than it was a decade ago.

Not only is the playing field no longer level, the rules have changed, the game is faster and the uniforms are a lot shorter. The days of courting and being coy are as out dated as hot pants and polyester. Afraid to make a move? There are tons of fears, frights, scares and trepidations. There are even dating phobias which are irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain nouns (persons, places, things). For your information:

The Top Ten Common Fears Known to Single Men and Women

1. Isolophobia – fear of being alone

2. Athazagoraphobia- fear of being forgotten

3. Gamophobia – fear of marriage

4. Mageirocophobia – fear of cooking

5. Sexophobia – fear of the opposite sex

6. Gynophobia – fear of women

7. Hominophobia -fear of men

8. Clinophobia – fear of going to bed

9. Homilophobia – fear of sermons

10. Nyctophobia- fear of the dark or night.

Franklin D Roosevelt said it best:

“ The only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified, terror which paralyzes needed efforts…”

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Smart Women – Dumb Choices?


Best ADVICE:  Hide your IQ  and 
Show your bra strap…

Hey, smarty pants!

The University of Chicago describes itself  as The place fun came to die.”

September, 1980, 24 freshmen girls sat around two large oak tables while the dorm RA, Barbara, reviewed the rules: curfew, visiting hours, and security.After her 30-minute orientation, she closed the three-ring binder, looked up and said, “That’s it. Welcome to the University of Chicago. Off the record, I’ve got one other piece of advice.  My freshmen RA told me this and I am passing on to you.  In case you’re interested in dating a guy in college: hide your IQ and show your bra strap.”

The girls had all pretended to listen to the rules and regulation part of the presentation, however when Barbara, the cool upper classman – an Amazon, with long flaxen hair, the embroidered peasant blouse, faded jeans, and cool hecho en Mexico- huaraches mentioned the words “date and men” all 24 pairs of eyes were on her.  Enrapt.

“Yeah, hide your IQ. Hey, we were all 4.0, we all had the highest SAT scores, and you were probably all student body presidents, right? And, how many of you were cheerleaders or prom queens?” The girl from Nevada raised her hand, and put it down quickly. Barbara smiled at the poor little sheep that had lost their way and quipped, “I rest my case.”

Their new idol, now seemingly smarter and sexier than an hour before, picked up her binder, scanned the room and said, “Men are intimidated by smart women. Even here. It’s a fact. I am a junior, I have been here for three long years.”

“Finally, never knock on my door before 9 am or after 9 pm.” Her back was to us as she walked out of the room and called out, “Enjoy college, girls”

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The sage advice caused an eruption of discussion and Ms Nevada said she came to Chicago to meet ‘the Susan Sontags and Mike Nichols not the Carl Sagan and Milton Friedman types.’ The girls were initially bemused and confused. Twenty years before women burned bras and now – show and tell? Cool.

Do smart women intimidate men?

There is a Mensa party every Wednesday night in San Rafael (disguised as Trivia Night at the Broken Drum) Chances are most attendees at Trivia Night graduated from Ivy League schools. You see a lot of Penn, Cal, Stanford, and MIT logos on Wednesday nights. The trivia-teams compete furiously and the questions become more and more challenging as the evening transpires. Interestingly enough, 50% of the attendees are women. Really smart women. They show and tell. The word on the street is that the women succeed at scoring – on every level…academically and socially, IQ’s in full view.

And the men enjoy the exchange and banter.

The well-intentioned advice from a 20 year old in Chicago in 1980 inspired a spate of lingerie shopping for a dozen very smart coeds and the men on campus were luckier for it.

“All this pitting of sex against sex, of quality against quality;  

all this claiming of superiority and imputing of inferiority

belong to the private-school stage of human existence where there are sides, 

and it is necessary for one side to beat another side.”

Virginia Woolf

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Speed Dating at 50? Buckle Up, Binkie

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Speed date, blind date, brunch date, dinner date, fixed up,

cyber date, serial date, polydate.

So many dates, so little time. Take you time and don’t get caught speeding through conversations.

Buckle Up, Baby. Remember, it doesn’t have to be a Bumpy Ride.

Kelly, a serious serial dater, has two interview skills and claims that’s all she needs. She listens carefully and asks a handful of questions, which launch 100 word answers. Like a fly fisherman, she deftly snaps the line into the water and allows the date do his job.

The Top 20 Questions to Get the Conversation Rolling.

1. Tell me about your best friend.
2. Tell me about you very worst job.
3. What was your very first car?
4. What was your best job?
5. Tell me about your family and where you grew up.
6. Tell me about your very favorite relative.
7. Tell me all the places you’ve worked.
8. Who is your favorite female movie star?
9.  What hobbies do you spend money on?
10. What’s you very favorite song?
11. Tell me one really life-changing moment?
12. When did you meet your very first girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. Where and when was your first kiss and with whom?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Tell me the most romantic date you’ve ever planned.
17. They say, “Women shop and men buy.” What is one store you wouldn’t be caught dead in?
18. Have you ever used drugs?
19. Tell me what your perfect day-off looks like?
20. If someone gave you two free tickets to anywhere in the world – where would you go?

 Getting the Conversation Rolling: Try one or 10 of these questions next time you meet another interesting, available person. Bon Chance!

“I want relations which are not purely personal, based on purely personal qualities; but relations based upon some unanimous accord in truth or belief, and a harmony of purpose, rather than of personality. I am weary of personality. Let us be easy and impersonal, not forever fingering over our own souls, and the souls of our acquaintances, but trying to create a new life, a new common life, a new complete tree of life from the roots that are within us.

D. H. Lawrence

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The BoomBoom Generation – does anyone remember the music?

 

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We are the BoomBoom Generation: the stuff of Pulitzer Prize books by David Halberstam  and Tom Brokow.

We are easily defined by the music we listened to on our transistor radios and stereos. We bought records by Aretha, Marvin Gaye, Credence, Four Tops, Temptations, Animals, Airplane, Beach Boys, Beatles, Dylan, Donovan, Doors, Stones, Who, Jimmy Hendrix, the Dead, Pete Seeger, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, and Peter Paul and Mary and the Four Seasons. We loved the Eagles, Elvis, BeeGees, Boston, Queen and Don McLean

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We lived through the Summer of Love and wore flowers in our hair and puka shells around our necks. We imagined we were ‘Born to be wild’ and “Appointment TV”  was watching American Bandstand every day after school. What did “I would give it a 10, but I can’t dance to it” really mean.”? Dick Clark  was the man who brought heart throbs like Paul Anka, Bobby Darin, Fabian, Jim Croce, The Byrds to us. Chubby Checker twisted, Diana Ross grooved, Patsy Cline, the Four Tops  all appeared in our living rooms.

Many of us learned the “Twist”, the “Mashed Potatoes” and the “Hitchhiker” while watching American Bandstand.

The languid 1950’s ushered in the advent of national television, while Holiday Inns and McDonalds were mushrooming up nation wide. We were learning about Cuba, Castro, Sputnik, the H-Bomb, Elvis, and something called, “the Pill”. The 1960’s were another story.

“Without music, life would be an error.”    Friedrich Nietzsche

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Tomorrow: Does anyone remeber the laughter?

From Ms Dee Vorst in the City

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Q.Why is Divorce so expensive?

A. Because it is so worth it.

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What works best? Wisdom, patience, grace and aplomb?

Or an all out effort to Win the Divorce Debacle?

Huxley was right: It’s a Brave New World.

Post Divorce: It’s a sharp Jack-knife into the Internet Dating pool – come on in – the water’s fine!

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Girls…in San Francisco

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We were twenty-something: dreamy, hopeful, and optimistic. As children, we were told we could do anything and “be someone.”  We were fraught with no dates, too many dates, boring boyfriends – exciting trysts – which ended in hours of analysis with roommates over wine coolers, Double-stuffed Oreos or Sara Lee cakes.

 Unlike Girls  on the popular HBO TV show, we wore robes, kimonos, baby dolls, negligees, and cover-ups. Nude? Not so much. Our speech was peppered with “Gag me with a spoon,” and “Righteous,” and  “Like, totally.”

 As girls, our cooking repertoire defaulted to Lean Cuisine, Hamburger Helper, the miracles of Cheez Whiz, and Bisquick. We drank Tab, frozen daiquiris and Cosmopolitans.

 We shopped at Joseph Magnin’s then slipped into Blum’s for a slice of Coffee Crunch cake. We popped into the exquisite, green- marble, ladies room at I. Magnin. We hiked over to the Emporium and bought Japanese water-flowers in Chinatown.

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We knew every cool happy hour in San Francisco and who had the best free hors d’oeuvres: Paoli’s.

We knew we looked stunning in leg warmers. We wore mega shoulder pads, mini skirts, and knew a lot of guys in Members Only jackets.

In the 80’s. our haunts included Henry Africa’s, Lord Jim’s, the Balboa Café, the Cadillac Bar, and Perry’s.

Marin was “Over there”- famous for the No-name Bar and Jules Broussard at Sweetwater. We rarely went South of Market and the tacky Tenderloin was a “Do Not Enter Zone.”

It was a decade of “I am woman hear me like roar… or whine, or like, totally, like exclaim.”

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One by one, our Girls number dwindled as we got into real boy-girl relationships. HBO Girls makes it look hard. And weird.

We gave up our lives as Mary-Ann-Singletons in San Francisco and join ‘The Marrieds.’

Our parents- as newlyweds- had all moved into Park Merced. We found flats and apartments in the Richmond, the Sunset District, and the Marina. Visions of babies were dancing in our heads. Many of us started families and juggled careers along with the PTA meetings, carpools, endless homework, expensive orthodontia, exhilaration and challenges. Sandwiched – we care for our kids and our aging parents.

Dames

As girls, we thought we were Kool and the Gang – never expecting we would become the Golden Girls. We had our “Wonder Years” – they have lasted decades – and then we will become: dames.

There is nothing like a dame

We will have a penchant for comfort over style. We still love shoes and spend our money on comfortable Mephisto’s and Munro’s and Merrill’s. There are grandchildren in our futures – or our laps.

Life Happens

 After years of headaches with the glass-ceiling syndrome and we leave careers and marriages and start new chapters. We will be dames. There is nothing like a dame…like a Maggie Smith, Nora Ephron, Angela Merkel, Hilary, Melinda Gates, Helene Gayle, Sister Simone Campbell.

HBO’s young Girls are famously awkward – in so many facets of life – as evidenced by the multi-talented Lena Dunham as she staggered on stilettos to the Golden Globes stage to receive not one – but two – awards. Go, Girls. One small bit of advice for the staggeringly famous: comfortable shoes.

Dames Rule.

Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.    Henry Ford

“An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have. The older she gets the more interested he is in her.”  Agatha Christie

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Dating 101: Are you a perfect match or too picky?

lead_960-2He was smart – very smart- and reserved.

She was street-smart and outgoing.

They went out.

He was intrigued with her cavalier attitude about most  things: the odd parking ticket, the merlot stain on the table cloth, the fog that rolled in with the wind and made their cheery picnic a ‘huddle close to keep warm fest.” Nothing seemed to rattle her.

She laughed a lot. She was easy-going.

He smiled. Amused and intrigued.

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Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary  – to his usual dates

Most of his dates were super conscious about being organic, gluten-free, Paleo, and sugar free. He was thrilled to meet a woman who actually wanted to have a dessert.  And she laughed –  easily and often.  Her behavior was somewhat foreign –  it had been a long time since he met a single woman in San Francisco who wasn’t uptight, anxious, critical and snarky.  Since when did snarky become attractive?

ice-cream-sundae-It was the ice cream -the  piece d’ resistance

All of his preconceived notions and fears about “Oh, no! Another dead-end date,” evaporated as they enjoyed ice cream together and were laughing.  He was relaxed and happy and eating fabulous ice cream with a woman who thought he was “All that.” Could it get any better?

It can happen. Take the heavy shroud off your heart, lighten up, and delete all those preconceived notions about stereotype dates.

Relax already.

I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.

Martha Washington

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Deja vu all over again? Dating today and Yogi Berra

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Was it Mr. Malaprop himself, Yogi Berra, who said, “It’s not how you play the game; it’s all about scoring”?

Kathy, the Pilates Princess of Burlingame, revealed that she was striking out with the men floating around the Internet. She said she kept running into men with an interest in scoring and zero interest in commitment or relationships. Her goal this Merry month of May  is to sign up on a new dating site. She wants to improve her dating chances by trying a new ‘niche-dating site.’

There are hundreds of dating sites to choose from — you’ll see sites for every hobby, club, interest, age, race, color and creed.

As Yogi Berra said, “If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.” If you have made too many “Wrong mistakes,”

Here are five unique ‘niche-dating sites’ you might want to take a swing at:

1. Herway.com Brand-new on the romance radar is a dating site for-the-girls and by-the-girls called HerWay. Their claim to fame is privacy. They point out your private life and love life should be private and not headlines. Why “tell all” before you even meet a man on line?

(See: Weight, Weight, Don’t’ Tell Me). Good point. Their technique is to allow the men you are interested in to see your profile. Sounds discreet. Finally, you can date on your own terms?

Nobody goes there anymore. It’s too crowded. — Yogi Berra

2. Cowboycowgirl.com For the horsy set. If riding off into the sunset is a goal of yours, these two sites for equestrians may be just for you. Members go to CowboyCowgirl.com to meet other people who share an appreciation for the ‘country’ set of values and way of life. They didn’t say which country or which values. Or — you can pony up, dressage up, and join the Horse Lovers Singles site.  Ride on.         It gets late early out there. — YB

3. Green Singles.com Go Green, be environmentally sound and date kindred evo-spirits who care about the environment, animal rights and healthy living. For the love of Earth — go Green.

If you come to a fork in the road, take it. — YB

4. My Country Match.com Rather go red, white and blue? My Country appears to be highly patriotic and unique (okay, and a little scary in a Fox News sort of way). This dating site claims to have a ‘code of ethics’ and that they ‘read every single profile.’ Their goal is to “connect single adults who seek real family values.”      The future ain’t’ what it used to be. — YB

5. Metaphysical If you have more of a spiritual bent and if your mantra is, “I never Metaphysical I didn’t like,” check out  Metaphysical meet up. You don’t have to be a wizard or Reiki Master to enjoy the magic.

We have deep depth. — YB

Do the research, evaluate the pros and cons of each site and be certain to compare the cost of each niche-dating site before signing up. New is good, try a new approach. Happy fall … in love.

Remember: It ain’t over, till it’s over. — YB

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