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Dating and trick or treating – the same?

night-995191__180Have you noticed: your first date and trick-or-treating

hauntingly similar?

Both require identical preparations and it’s all about wear and where.


Dressing – or selecting a costume- for Trick or Treating on Halloween and for that all-important first date requires an inordinate amount of time. You want to look good and make a statement. You forage through closets and drawers to select the right thing to wear. Women often aim for hauntingly beautiful or the girl-next-door costume. Good advice for guys is to appear like more like a superhero, less like a monster.


Deciding where to go Trick or Treating or for a first date requires that you carefully plan and plot. Both parties agree to meeting in a safe, well lighted neighborhood. You naturally avoid ‘dark and spooky,’ at all costs. You agree upon the perfect witching hour. Your spirits are up, and it’s time! The scariest thing that can happen? You don’t look like your picture. One of you is spooky, kooky or creepy.  Your costume is all-wrong. At the end of the night, you want to think, “Sweet!”  You don’t want to walk away thinking, “What a witch,” or “What a monster,” and return home empty handed.

Remember: A few kisses are good. You want to avoid sours, Nerds, Screaming Yellow Zonkers, Snickers, jawbreakers and gobstoppers.

Relax, enjoy one another and skip the trick, have fun and go straight for the ‘treats’.

Don’t try this at home:  2015 Spookiest Costume: Donald Trump, the Koch brothers, Marco Rubio, Shrimp Boy…

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Top 10 reasons he is going to ask you out again

First and Foremost







 Top Ten Reasons Date #2 is a given…

1. You look exactly like your photographs and he says, “Your pictures don’t do you justice.”

2. You offered to pay half – you are obviously thoughtful and evolved.

3. You laughed – with each other – a lot. Comfort level established.

4. You both had one drink – hey, first date.

5. They are as tall or taller than you (this may/may not matter)

6.You felt comfortable and at ease with each other

7. You have things in common: similar taste in sports, books, food, movies, dogs, skydiving, etc

8 You both have had ‘challenges’ in life and survived nicely.

9. You each have an “amusing” Internet dating story. And can laugh about it.

10 You both had fun and were relaxed and are looking forward to the next date.

“Women desire men’s desire of them” Freud

Dance lessons? Gentlemen, start your dance cards…

May I have this dance? Girls like boys who dance

It’s not a secret – women flock to dance classes- it’s what we do …

Looking for a few good men…cha cha cha

Salsa, cha cha, tango, waltz and West Coast Swing are the rage. Again.

Perhaps “Dancing with the Stars” has inspired some of the floods of singles signing up for dance classes. Maybe not.

Boogie by the Bay-the consummate West Coast Swing event of the year, a three-day marathon of dancing, workshops, lectures, lessons and more dancing until the cows come home. The energetic event was a magnet for hundreds of dancers and want-to-be-dancers.

Kids as young as 12 and as mature as 80, pranced, danced in the multiple ballrooms at the Burlingame Hyatt Hotel. They began the Beguine each morning at ten o’clock sharp and hustled to the dance floor to quick step, drive, swing, step, step, twirl and whirl while they  tripped the light fantastic. Dancers reveled until after three o’ clock in the morning.

The Left Coast is the Best Coast

West Coast swing and champion, teacher and icon, Kelly Casanova – was in the house. Casanova is two-time US Open Swing Dance Champion, national instructor & judge, and award recipient of the California Swing Dance Hall of Fame. Casanova displays an enormous talent, humor and style. She taught the first workshop of the day to over 100 passionate (experienced) and petrified (beginner) dancers. She encouraged, inspired, and entertained the energetic dancers.

Beginner? Her classes in Mill Valley, Santa Rosa and Emeryville are absolutely user-friendly and very popular.

Women Love Men Who Dance

It’s not a secret: from the lines in the loo, to the buffet, and the midnight dessert run, women all heartily agreed; men who dance are a lot more fun and a lot more interesting.

Marin County Writer, Producer and  Filmmaker, Mary Keill’s Indie movie, “Swing” stars Jacqueline Bisset and a small galaxy of stars anda bevy of local dancers. A great film – all about Swing, dreams, dancing, drama- a gem. Look for it.

The Take away: Gentlemen start your lessons: Take beginner lessons, have fun and practice, practice, practice.

Three Local Hot Spots for dancing

Go out in the world and work like money doesn’t matter, Sing as if no one is listening, Love as if you have never been hurt, and Dance as if no one is watching”

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Pink Martinis and the Hollywood Bowl – the best date ever

Once upon a time: a tale of two cities and the perfect date with music and martinis

He told her to be his house in San Francisco at 7:00 a.m. with running shoes and to be prepared for a surprise involving an airplane jaunt, a saber tooth tiger and a pink martini- and to bring a dress for dinner and a show.

The first surprise was when Super Shuttle arrived at 7:30 a.m. and whisked them away to SFO. She happily agreed to be open to a day of surprises. He called it their ‘Cinderella day.’ He alluded to a full 12 hours of fun and new adventures.
Timing is Everything

Jan and Mike met on JDate three months earlier and clicked instantly. Ironically, both were ‘lapsed Lutherans’ who were “looking for love in all the wrong places” until they each enrolled on JDate. Both struck out on Eharmony and decided to try a new tribe. Serendipitously, on the very same day, they decided to check out the new dating site, they met on line.

They shared a passion for Zydeco music, Greece, photography and every book written by Pat Conroy. If nothing else, JDate is the master marketing machine for dating and connecting. The two admit to wading through a few so-called “perfect matches” then, bingo, they connected and clicked. Three months and many dates later, they were blissfully flying to Los Angeles together.

He got ridiculously cheap airline tickets to LA and arranged to have his brother, Gary, the out of work actor, to pick them up and play chauffeur and tour guide. She packed her camera, an arsenal of Trader Joe’s snacks, and bejeweled ballet slippers and a crinkly, little black dress that folded up to the size of a CD.

The piece d résistance, Mike revealed he had won two tickets to Pink Martini at the Hollywood Bowl. Earlier that summer, while at the Shakespeare Festival in Ashland, he won a drawing for two free tickets to the concert and Backstage passes from KOBI TV in Medford. Life is good.

Get Me to the Getty on Time

First stop: the Getty Museum for the highly touted ‘Engaged Observers: Documentary Photography since the Sixties’ exhibit. They spent a quick two hours at the vast museum, and had to tear themselves away from the impressive photography.

Gary, never met an audience he didn’t like, was delighted to play chauffeur for his brother and date. Their next surprise stop was the famed La Brea Tar Pits. When she was 12, Jan’s family had explored the magic kingdom, Disneyland and the dreary Tar Pits. Jan was amazed by the new  museum, the excellent displays and the wall of hundreds of saber tooth tiger skulls.

Gary took them to his favorite hole-in-the-wall Thai restaurant in Hollywood where they feasted and changed into dress clothes and excitedly drove to the famous and awesome Hollywood Bowl. Gary said he knew some people at the Bowl, would park the car, hike back and see if he could score SRO ticket.

As Smooth as a Pink Martini

Jan, a very big big fan of Pink Martini, had always loved “Sunday Table” a romantic song written by China Forbes and Thomas Lauderdale about that moment where you pass a stranger on the street have a split second love affair. Bonus, that night the “special guests” were Rufus Wainwright, Jane Powell, Air Shapiro and  the original cast of Sesame Street.

The concert was beyond their expectations. Jan and Mike loved every moment and every song. After the  best concert ever, they were like kids going backstage to mingle and ogle. Jan was thrilled to talk to handsome and debonair, Emilio Delgado – Luis from Sesame Street. Her college-aged daughters would swoon over the photo of her and their all-time, very favorite Sesame Street denizen. All too soon, Gary whisked the two back to the airport and before they knew it, Jan and Mike were on Super Shuttle and back in the City. Jan told Mike she did feel like Cinderella and he really was a prince and charming.

Tell me about your perfect date.
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