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Page Larkin’s Best of San Francisco

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Here Are My 2019 Best of San Francisco Tips, Scoops, Ideas, 
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Zap it, map it, print it, share it, keep it in your glove-box and use these “Best of San Francisco” scoops, tips and ideas- Enjoy the ride.

Best French Restaurant: La Folie

2316 Polk Street San Francisco, CA 94109 (415)-776-5577

Best Yoga/Massage: The Mindful Body

2876 California St San Francisco, CA 94115 (415) 931-2639

Best Candy, Sweets and Treats: The Candy Store

1507 Vallejo Street San Francisco, CA 94100

Best Saturday Night Date Blues shows on Union Square: Biscuit and Blues- seek out Earl Thomas- Last Saturday of the month.

Best Bookstore: Green Apple Books

506 Clement Street San Francisco, CA 94118 (415) 387-2272

Best Toy Store/Adult: Good Vibrations

603 Valencia Street San Francisco, CA 94110 (415) 522-5460

Best Need a Make-over? Best Hair Salon: Jackson Place Salon with Liz

633 Battery St San Francisco, CA 94111 (415) 399-1044

Best Pie and Coffee Date Place: 2316

1240 9th Ave San Francisco, CA 94122 (415) 665-9912

Best World’s Fair Calibre Palace Date Place: The Palace of Fine Arts

3301 Lyon Street San Francisco, CA 94123 415) 563-6504

Best Sell Your Gold: San Francisco Gold Buyer

255 West Portal Ave San Francisco, CA 94127 (415) 566-1111

Best Walgreens in the City: Franklin Street at Post St

1301 Franklin St San Francisco, CA 94107 (415) 775-6706

Best Knife Sharpener in the City: Galen at Town Cutler

1005 Bush St San Francisco, CA 94109 (415) 359-1519

Best Need Furniture for New Nest? Best Consignment Store: Design Plus

333 Folsom at Eighth, San Francisco, CA

Best Tenderloin Dive Bar: The Ha-Ra Club

875 Geary St, San Francisco, CA 94101

Best -All the rage- Bakery b Patissiere

2821 California Street, San Francisco, CA 94118 (415 440-1700)

Best Wedding Photographer: Christopher Briscoe

287 4th St Ashland, Oregon 97520 (541) 488-2005 (Simply too cool not to mention)

Best Moving in Together? Best Moving and Storage: Cunningham Movers

1250 Van Dyke Ave San Francisco, CA 94124 (415) 854-0524

Best Volvo Repair Auto 280

1315 Ocean Ave San Francisco, CA 94112 (415) 333-8622

Best Couples Massage and Facials: Chez Shivy

350 Lawton St San Francisco, CA 94122 (415) 566-8316

Best Chain Bakery owned by Starbucks: La Boulange – (multiple Bay Area locations)

Best Great Date with Pomme frites, French 75’s and Oysters ‘on the half’: Absinthe

398 Hayes Street San Francisco, CA 94102 (415) 551-1590

Here and now is the time to play in San Francisco. Remember, play is not a luxury – it is a necessity.

Say, ‘Yes!’ to every single invitation, and to go outside and play.

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This is your brain on Match: Week #1


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The first week on Match.com is totally intoxicating.

On your mark, get set, Go!

You spent time and money to get in the game. You posted some cool photos of your good-looking self. You read three dozen other profiles to see what the competition is writing. You spent hours penning answers to a ton of questions. (Match is not as daunting as the “Famed 400+ Eharmony inane questions.)

After a round of spell-check and a few re-reads/re-writes – you pull the trigger and wait for the party to begin.

One must sort though dozens of photos

You said you want to date someone in the Bay Area and the boys from the A-States (Arizona, Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas)  are sending you winks, blinks, notes and flirts. Totally Geographically Undesirable.

In time,  you get pretty good at sending out “Intro’s” and waiting for responses.

You exchange emails – chat on the phone, text a tiny bit, and meet with a few people for coffee. With some there is chemistry – and others – not a match!coffee-690453__180

How long can you “coffee date?” For months or for years? It is your call.

This is your brain on Match after two years:

Take a break – take a breather – try another online dating site – and remain optimistic. There are so many Happily Every After Match.com Stories out there…keep your eyes and your heart open.

LOVE 27  Romance Happens.

Super Bowl Ads: like Dating after 50?

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 The Super Bowl  TV Ads – just like Dating at 50, 60…

The people you meet while swiping Online Dating Sites can be Very Fox-y:  All Flash- No Content.

In 2019, Bumble wants you to swipe soon and Pepsi launches new Bubly want you to quaff quick while all those Beer  Beer Beer ads flow…

Ole! You’ve met Avocados de Mexico  types – try to  attempt to  seduce tastebuds with free appetizers Oh my, Guac!

And expext the  usual Whopper from Burger King …

Spots for KIA and Hyundai will be  back…or as confused and ugly and the

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and dive into the Buffet Table…

If you are lucky,  you may meet a Fred Astaire wannabe – like Sean of TurboTax Fame

who will trip the light fantastic with you – and help you with your taxes

and get you a refund: a trifecta.photo_184_20051014Online Dates- just like the TV Ads – can be Good….Bad…or Ugly…

It is up to you get in the game,

give it your all, try new passes, new lines, 

  and play well with others.

In dating at any age, if at first you don’t succeed –

Change the Channel.

 

Like Tinder, Bumble  is based on users swiping right ( Yes) or left ( No) as you view profiles and  matches in your

area, but with one key difference:

After two heterosexual people match on Bumble, the Lady gets to message the Gentleman first.

New member of the “Not Married Now” club?

coffee-mugs-datte_180Every day there are tons of new members in the

Not Married Now Club.

We walk out of the courtroom glazed, delighted, defeated, feeling numb or ecstatic and newly appointed: divorced.

Some of us throw a party – replete with champagne and pizza – or darts and beer. Others take to their beds, and watch a full season of OccupiedBroadchurch, or Happy Valley on Netflix, barely paying attention.

Some are already enmeshed in a new relationship and seek sex, refuge and understanding.

Whatever your state (grace, confusion, ire, relief) take the proper amount of processing time.

When you are ready, gently remove and discard the shroud around your heart. It may take awhile. Or not.

Next, shred the mountains of documents and go outside.

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Go Outside:  Watch the sunrise, take a walk, enjoy/join humanity in your new identity as a Single Person : Suddenly Single Not Married Now. Free at last.

Feeling odd and out of sorts or splendid?

Take your time to return to a social whirlwind or even to a small gust of activity. Even though 50% of us have walked through the valley of divorce, like snowflakes: no two are alike.

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My friend once confided that her neighbor was going to the exact same divorce scenario as I had endured. Really?

She pleaded for me to consult with her neighbor. I reluctantly agreed – we spoke on the phone-indeed, there were a striking number of similarities.

Girls, we aim to please – it is what we do. (Oprah calls it as “The Disease to Please) I agreed to meet Jaquie for coffee.

She had six months of divorce filings, co-parenting, and attorney meetings under her belt. Evidently, I was considered “An Expert Witness” with years worth of E-Ticket divorce-land experience.

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She came to the coffee shop with her boyfriend, Clive, whose picture I had just seen on Match.com.

He stayed just a minute, said he was, “Going to pop out and go shopping.” Yes, he did shop around.

Jaquie and I fell into an easy conversation as similar as we were – we were worlds apart.

She’s been married for 9.75 years and her father-in-law was a multi-millionaire. He had invented Post-it notes or glue 0r something very significant.

She reported she had huge financial resources and that she might go back to school and become a pastry chef. She and Clive had been together for three months and she was quite smitten.

(I checked later that day, Clever Clive was alive and looking on Match.com) Red flag, sweetheart!

The more we spoke, the quicker the similarities evaporated. Our differences expanded like those skinny sponges – simply add water and, bingo! You don’t even recognize the original, flat concept. She was on her own path. Ta, ta!

Keep your divorce to yourself

Good friends may inquire about your divorce. There is no reason to bore them with the details. So, hire a therapist. Level with your therapist. Take a spinning class – do all kinds of catharsis, but don’t bore your friends and family.

Welcome to The Club

And know: when you walk into the store, the library, or the post office: 50% of the people in line are also divorced… and that group at Starbucks, and that class you are taking? Yep, truth be told: 50%.

Carpe diem, darlin. Welcome to the club, You are not alone,fireweolslsls

 

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Top 15 Best Ideas for New / Unusual Dates

 

If you’re alive, you can’t be bored in San Francisco.

  If you’re not alive, San Francisco will bring you to life. 

William Saroyan

Bad dates are dime a dozen.

Great dates should be inspired, creative, and fun. The old, “Meet me at Starbucks,” is bland and boring.  Take it up a notch and get creative- go native, son! Jump on a trampoline, party with the people at the Bay to Breakers, try a Flight-of- pies…

Here are the Top 15 Best Ideas for New and Unusual Dates

in San Francisco

  1. Best slice of pizza date: Nizarios On Geary Boulevard
  2. Best coffee and pie date: Park Chow near Golden gate Park
  3. Best run, run, as fast as you can: Bay to Breakers on Sunday
  4. Best Blues show: Earl Thomas – Saturday night at Biscuit and Blues
  5. Best trampoline date: House of Air in the Presidio
  6. Best hang out in the ‘hood: explore West Portal – have lunch, see movie, shop, walk to the beach.
  7. Best what music do you like date: Amoeba Records on Haight
  8. Best speakeasy date: Bourbon and Branch
  9. Best long walk on the beach: Ocean Beach at Fulton Street
  10. Best donut and coffee date: Dynamo Donuts
  11. Best French bakery- latte and croissants division: Tartine
  12. Best beginner dance class- West Coast Swing division- Kelly Buckwalter
  13. Best eye exam date:  Site for Sore Eyes in West Portal ($59)
  14. Best sweetheart date: The Candy Store on Vallejo at Polk Street.
  15. Best Oh, you kid! Toy store date: The Ark on Sacramento Street

San Francisco is cool, hip, fun, diverse – you have no excuse to be anything but the same – get out there and have fun!

“San Francisco is one of the great cultural plateaus of the world — one of the really urbane communities in the United States — one of the truly cosmopolitan places and for many, many years, it always has had a warm welcome for human beings from all over the world.” –     Duke Ellington

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No L-o-v-e? Facebook says Christmas is break up time

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Tis the season to be jolly  HOWEVER, According to Facebook, 

it’s the War of the Roses time and breaking up is de rigueur.

Research done by the elves at Facebook reveals that Christmastime can be called ‘Merry EX-miss.’

So, are you: Single and Afraid of Another Silent Night?

Finding yourself Suddenly Single can make the Christmas holiday a totally new, sometimes unsettling experience. These can be the times that try men’s and women’s souls, stamina, and spirit. 

Business Insider reveals that David McCandless did the due diligence on ‘Yuletide dating and breaking up’ by examining trends on Facebook. Research indicates breaking up at the holiday season is a so-called tradition.

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Blue Christmas, indeed. And, you don’t even want to know about Mondays.  Is there really such a thing as Empirical evidence from Facebook? Who says if it’s from Facebook, it’s got to be true?


If your December dilemma

Once you were  half-of-a-couple, now you find yourself flying solo – what do you do? Get off the couch, push away from the computer and go out and play. Wear red. Listen to Christmas carols. Invest in mistletoe and wear a sprig on your lapel or on your hat.  

Scour the San Francisco Chronicle for events, read Marin’s Pacific Sun  for fun events; read Johnny Fun Cheap.

 Say ‘yes’ to every invitation to go out; go dancing; see the beautiful decorations on Union Square; master the art of making latkes; learn the words to ‘Mele Kalikimaka‘; throw a Christmas party – at home, with friends, in a small café or a pub.

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A passel of people (see movie: Love Actually) who find themselves in the dreaded  ‘kiss-free mistletoe zone’  actively seek out sweethearts for the season. These pro-active romantics re-up on Match.com, Craigslist, Eharmony, or Plenty of Fish.

valentine-1213612__180Follow suit: they smile and say, “Merry Christmas” to everyone – especially at Trader Joe’s, Bryan’s, Safeway and default to jolly and bright.

Some say ‘Lose the Santa hat‘ and lead with a hearty “Merry Christmas.”

(Don’t waste one minute debating the PC-ness of wishing everybody a “MC”)

And, don’t let a Facebook statistic get in the way of having a holly-jolly holiday.

Your mother was right: Go outside and play!

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Merry Merry

San Francisco Dating@50 Examiner, Page Larkin,welcomes your feedback, questions and queries at Page.Larkin@gmail.com

The Top 10 Rules of The Manly Men

From the Vault….

We’ve seen all the “Rule Books” on dating, mating, flirting, and living – written by women.

At last a guy, Mr. ANON, has taken the time to write create this:

‘”A List of Rules From the Manly Man Point of View”

Note: Because these are the Manly Men Rules they are all numbered ‘#1.’ for a purpose ~ each: is equally as important.

 

1. Men are not mind readers. We are rugged, brawny, handsome and handy – we just don’t have the ESP gene – spell it o-u-t, sweetheart.

1. Sunday Sports are of the highest importance. They’re like the full moon, or the stars, the sky – our True North. It’s not the day to drag us to mall and make us hold your suitcase-sized purse as you try on 15 pair of identical black slacks. We crave Sunday Sports – be a sport – and hand us the remote control, please.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: subtle hints do not work. Strong, loud, hints don’t work. Call us primitive – it is obvious your soft, cute little hints are not effective. You don’t ask – you don’t get…

1. ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question. We are succinct. Especially during commercials.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you really want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy, gossip, chatting endlessly are what your wonderful girlfriends are for. Use them.

1. Memories: Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and Void after 7 Days.

1. If you think you’re fat, you might be – or you are looking for a compliment… and reassurance…first check a mirror, then come to us…and, Never on a Sunday.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we really meant the other one. Honest.

1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself. If you want company and camaraderie – ask us. After you’ve called your girl friends.

1. Commercial Value: whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during the TV commercials.

1.Following our bliss ~ Christopher Columbus didn’t need directions and pride prevents us from breaking the mold. Work with us—that’s why God invented maps and GPS.

1. The Color of the Wind: All men see in only 16 colors, like the Windows default settings. Men all know Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is. Chartreuse is a drink…we are a little color blind.

1. If we ask ‘what is wrong’ and you say ‘nothing,’ we will act like nothing’s wrong. Of course, we know you are less than honest, but, darlin, it’s just not worth the hassle.

1. If you ask a question that you really don’t want an answer to, Girl up, and expect an answer you don’t want to hear.

1. Skirting the issue: when we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine… really.

1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about ~~unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as football. Or Golf. Baseball. Tennis. Ping Pong. Bowling. Biking. Hiking. Rowing. Camping.

Thank you for reading this. (The author writes: “Yeah, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight…manly men really don’t mind that… It’s just like camping. But different. Sweet dreams. See you in the morning? Right? Those jeans really make you look thin. Really.”

xxoo

Date Bait: Want to hook a honey for Christmas? Best Match.com on

Merry Merry – and she got married…

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Patty W. lives in Pasadena and was single/again for two years befor she signed up for Match.com

In a flight of fancy, she filled out the online dating questionaire and in a short while,( read: one week)  she met the Love of Her Life. Yes, Binkie, it happens.

Patty in Pasadena

Hi. I am happy and positive, sensual, physically fit, passionate about life and very self-assured. Friends describe me as open, thoughtful and caring with an empathy for others.

You want and truly value a partner who is loyal and can be there for you, in all ways, and support your needs as well as your own. 
You’re active, attractive, eager to explore, intellectually curious and like to play. 
 
You have a busy and engaged life you love, but want a partner and best friend to share the highs and the lows with, and to grow together. You love…

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How to avoid San Francisco, Thanksgiving and traffic snarls



Thanksgiving  

and “What will the neighbors say?”

The Bridge and Tunnelers flooded into San Francisco by land and by sea. They came from the burbs to the City for shopping, dining, theater, and more shopping.

Every parking lot in Union Square was bulging at the scene. For days, gaggles of tourists crossed on the “Don’t Walk” and bumped into one another and nary a single, “Pardon me,” or “Excuse me,” was heard.

Legendary hot spots were full. Friday afternoon, many of the hotel bars were standing room only. The lobby scene at the Hilton, the Hyatt’s, Hotel Nikko, the Drake and Marriott was chaotic.

The Clift Hotel, once famously elegant and refined, is now a twenty something hangout. Girls showed up in the mini-est of skirts with arm-fulls of clanging bracelets and snakes of tangled necklaces from H&M. Hoodies and boots are de rigueur. The Redwood Room– once a haven for socialites, debutantes, power lunches and real Mad Men is a whisper of it’s former self.

Everyone must get boots!

Epidemic proportions of boots were walking on Geary and Market Streets. Evidently, black boots are best – and the higher the better, but Uggs work. Uggs have moved into the Big-Bling-Sequin category. Dare you to walk into any shoe store and not stumble upon dozens of black boots on display. Next look around: what percentage of shoppers are wearing or buying black boots?

Ironic – not iconic

Guys were in faux- ironic T-shirts, tight pants, their dad’s Wing-tips. (Hush Puppies have come and gone, again) Tight fitting cowboy shirts are back. (see JCPenney’s $12 on Cyber Monday and also see sheplers.com.) Black jeans are a uniform.

Black pants: a man walks into a bar

Every woman in line to buy a cup of coffee is wearing black pants – whether they are yoga pants, (Lululemon are banned by women of all thigh size)   leggings, Jeggings, crops, or running pants. Is there another color in your palette?

Welcome Neighbor?

Our neighbors, the Bridge and Tunnelers from a world away- the suburbs – come and heartily boost our economy.

They see, they shop, dine around  and return home to their predictable, safe, much quieter neighborhoods. Thanks, for coming by.

 

 

From “Date Night Bridge and Tunnelers”

Home again, home again:

The Bridge and Tunnelers are torn. Can they admit a trip to San Francisco was tedious, depressing and exorbitant? They found the restaurants too rich for their blood. The streets were dirty and a small army of homeless was sleeping in doorways. Parking was a nightmare and getting out of the jam-packed garage felt like Sisyphus – going nowhere fast.

As they pulled into their own garages, the Over the Bridge through the Tunnelers are relieved and relaxed to be home and they wonder: what ever to happened to San Francisco?

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Ouch! Welcome to Japantown:


Ouch! Newly minted Police officers are parked on (westbound) Geary Boulevard at Laguna Street – ready to pounce! Captain KK Sullivan sends all the “New Cops on the Block” to practice Ticket Writing as approximately 23 people – per shift- miss the “No Left Turn on Red” Sign posted way up high…the Sign is located two-stories above the street.  

What are the City of San Francisco Rules and Reg are: Signage and Sightlines?

 

 

 

Dating newbie? Bewitched, bothered and bewildered?

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Dreams – the stuff Dates are based upon…

 

Yes, Binkie, it is true:  “Dating at 50” can be a challenge – in the best of times.

 You already discovered there is no harmony on eHarmony? And a long time ago found that Craigslist was a nightmare of creepy/anonymous “Not-my-types?”

Perhaps Match.com linked you up with the wacky, too thin, too hyper ballerina or shock- jock like Charlie Sheen- who actually need Two and Half Men in white coats? Swiping on Tinder can give you whiplash or depression.

Okay, so dating and developing your social networking 2018 has not been a laughing matter.

Who Moved My Rules?

Since your very First Date of Yore- the Rules of Dating have changed dramatically. If you remember San Francisco’s randy fern-bar days (Henry Africa’s, Thomas Lord’s, and Paoli’s) and you are A Classic “Re-enter and Suddenly Single in San Francisco Dater”

Buckle up, it is going to be a bumpy ride.

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First of all, the Dating Playing Field you remember is no longer level and things have gotten a whole lot faster.  (And the uniforms are really short!) Don’t even start to talk about scoring and making points. You will have to adjust and get up to speed. There are hundreds of websites comparing, contrasting and social networks (Dating Sites) for you to explore.

Dating 2018 versus Dating 20 Years Ago

Once upon a time, you may have known the pace, the place, and the attire and could do all Three Modes of Communication: pithy, banter, and clever repartee.

Update: 2018 The once revered Art of Conversation has been pushed off the pedestal to make room for text messaging, e-mail, swiping, smart phones, and, smile, you are on Skype. Don’t get me started on Tinder.

So Many Books, So Little Time

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man has shards of wisdom scattered throughout. Stroll down the aisles of your library and pick up three or four dating books.(Dating for Dummies is really a treasure trove. As is, the classic : He is Just Not That Into You 

The best selling dating how-to-book, The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right is a lark and a laugh and is peppered with some pretty good ideas for dating at 50.

Hot Tips: Get off the couch and out of the house. Don’t waste time on a dead-end relationship. Notice the red flags and move on. Whoever asks, pays.

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And, if things get dicey, remember those two magic words, ‘Check, please!”

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