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Brrr…getting a cold shoulder on

Snow covered road closed sign

Five Tips for  Online Dating Beginners and  Quitters….

Eventually, Dennis ( SF Boy, 60+ divorced) grew weary and bored by online dating sites. He complained women didn’t respond to his clever missives. In three years, he tried four different sites and and been on over 40 dates. He met a half dozen women he liked, at first, then he woke up and realized he was dating various shades of his Ex-wife.  And, he didn’t like his Ex.

Dennis, it’s time to take a break.   See Here: Dating at 50


Who said You ought to be in pictures? Be Careful:  Don’t Say “Cheese”  See: The Worst online dating Photossad man

Bundle of Dollars MoneyHow much does a Free Dating Site Cost?


 Should you: Shoot an arrow in the air and see OK Cupid?

To Tell the Truth? The two giants, and EHarmony may twist the truth a bit. Do you actually  believe the white haired smooth-talking EH spokesman who looks like Grandpa? Don’t. And:  Beware the lies of Match

dead-end-777__180On Your Way Out:

Like a good camper – leave no trace before you push the I Quit button on any online dating site.

Why?  If you don’t, your photo will be up and running for weeks after you have left the party and thrown in the towel…

Do not go gentle into that good night,

Old age should burn and rave at close of day;

Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Dylan Thomas



Do you dare bring a date to Thanksgiving?

fruits and flowersTurkey: Rhymes with… Dysfunction

Imagine the smell of the turkey roasting in the oven and the sight of luscious pumpkin pies and plump mincemeat pies sitting on the buffet. Cubes of yellow butter melting on mounds of steaming mashed potatoes. The dining room aglow with orange votive candles and a massive centerpiece of fall colored chrysanthemums gracing the table.

Dishes piled with green beans and sweet carrot soufflé, bowls of ruby red cranberries, and pomegranates and tangerines all crowded on the kitchen counter. A veritable food festival with friends and family –and, some ‘Strangers in the night’.


Rusty in Hayward reveals he is ‘blessed’ with an Aunt-Can’t-Edit, who blurts unseemly comments and slightly embarrasses the entire family in one fell swooping comment.

Shelia in Pittsburgh writes that last year she was graced with, “A cast of cousins straight out of Central Casting, Seven Dwarves style: Grumpy, Dopey, Snarky, Chatty, Smokey, Sneezey, and Boozy”

Okay, kids, so Thanksgiving will never be a Norman Rockwell painting. Granted, for many of us it will be more like “The Scream.” Each year we are fortunate to gather, gobble and go.


Count your blessings

Will you dare to bring your current sweetheart home to meet the family? Tomes have been written about courage and bravery – you decide: will this exposure to your kin be a coup de grace or a potential triumph? Good luck.

The family… a strange little band of characters trudging through life… inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together. ~Erma Bombeck

A wet red christmas ball
Last year, six of us volunteered at three different soup kitchens and were turned away. There were too many volunteers. That’s what I’m talking about.

christmas decorations

The Mad Dash of the Holidays is Here
I refuse to count the daze.

This year I’m going to float down the stream of Christmas consciousness and revel in friends, fun, simplicity and sanity. All aboard.

The Day after Thanksgiving and all through the house, not a creature was shopping- all were watching football, talking, laughing, reading, washing dishes – a meditation- walking, riding bikes, going to see Skyfall, or Argo or Lincoln- and avoiding getting mauled at any mall.

A warning sign for the publicDouble dare you to Buy Nothing

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Speed Dating at 50? Buckle Up

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Speed date, blind date, brunch date, dinner date, fixed up,

cyber date, serial date, polydate.

So many dates, so little time. Take you time and don’t get caught speeding through conversations.

Buckle Up, Baby. Remember, it doesn’t have to be a Bumpy Ride.

Kelly, a serious serial dater, has two interview skills and claims that’s all she needs. She listens carefully and asks a handful of questions, which launch 100 word answers. Like a fly fisherman, she deftly snaps the line into the water and allows the date do his job.

The Top 20 Questions to get the Conversation Rolling.

1. Tell me about your best friend.
2. Tell me about you very worst job.
3. What was your very first car?
4. What was your best job?
5. Tell me about your family and where you grew up.
6. Tell me about your very favorite relative.
7. Tell me all the places you’ve worked.
8. Who is your favorite female movie star?
9.  What hobbies do you spend money on?
10. What’s you very favorite song?
11. Tell me one really life-changing moment?
12. When did you meet your very first girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. Where and when was your first kiss and with whom?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Tell me the most romantic date you’ve ever planned.
17. They say, “Women shop and men buy.” What is one store you wouldn’t be caught dead in?
18. Have you ever used drugs?
19. Tell me what your perfect day-off looks like?
20. If someone gave you two free tickets to anywhere in the world – where would you go?

 Getting the Conversation Rolling: Try one or 10 of these questions next time you meet another interesting, available person. Bon Chance!

“I want relations which are not purely personal, based on purely personal qualities; but relations based upon some unanimous accord in truth or belief, and a harmony of purpose, rather than of personality. I am weary of personality. Let us be easy and impersonal, not forever fingering over our own souls, and the souls of our acquaintances, but trying to create a new life, a new common life, a new complete tree of life from the roots that are within us.

D. H. Lawrence

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Denise will tell you she “Forgot to get married.”


Denise is a successful (read: very wealthy) CFO of a well-known Silicon Valley company; she drives a Logan Green Jaguar, has a gated home off of Highway 280, three adoring dogs, a cook, a housekeeper, a personal assistant and personal trainer. She pays a small army to take care of her.

She is a standing appointment of the Jackson Place Salon  in the City for an appointment with Liz for color and style – plus nails and brows. Thereafter, she always takes a spin through Bloomingdale’s  at Westfield Center to pick up a few things. She is a Chanel, Laura Mercier, and Kate Spade fan.

Flying Solo

A few of her college pals balance work and babies (and a stream of nannies, au pairs, and babysitters) and have made Denise their children’s “godmother” several times.

They have tried to “fix her up” with single men they know and like. Generally, Denise “feels nothing and has zero interest.”

The First Time: In grad school, Denise and Dan lived together. They looked like brother and sister: tall, thin, blonde REI types.

Both were driven, fast tracking, and competitive. They spurred each other on. She was never happier.

Then Dan met a woman. In one month, he moved out, got engaged and Denise was alone.

She was at the top of her B-School class, getting a lot of attention, interviews and job offers. She landed Oracle, then Google, and moved on and now is a V-VIP.

Party of One

Each week, Denise receives a small landslide of social invitations to events and fund-raisers or to speak at various meetings and organizations. She has been on more panels than she cares to admit. Generally, she’s invited by women’s groups, women’s coalitions, female engineers / Silicon Valley.

Secretly, she wanted to meet another “Dan.” He was perfect. She measures every single man by the Dan Yardstick– and every guy has failed to be a carbon copy.

Car Talk

Her father warned her against the Jaguar – he said the car was infamous for loving to go to the dealer; repairs were said to be frequent and expensive. She ignored him, however, every month or so, something was awry. She and the manger, Dennis, took to bantering and bargaining every visit. Every once in awhile, he would throw in a freebie and she would be on Cloud 9. After a year of Logan Geen Jag appointments, Dennis asked he if she wanted to go to a Giant’s game- he had great tickets and his brother bailed on him. No – no – no, she was too busy. He reminded her it was a Saturday afternoon game. He gave her his card with his cell number and suggested she call.

After a day of incessant mind-games, creative excuses, and a fear of flirting – she said “What the heck” and called him. He had her on “Hello.” He was gracious and funnier than at work, he asked questions and listened to her. He wouldn’t take “no” for an answer- offered to have Uber pick her up – if she didn’t want to ride with him – however, he had to brag his Jag was the 2015 and she would love it. They spoke on the phone for an hour – she laughed, listened and was comfortable and agreed to go to the game.

Their first date lasted twelve hours. So did their second date.

And, that was two years ago. She says she loves her Logan Green Jaguar – but she loves Dennis more.



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This is your brain on Match: Week #1


The first week on is totally intoxicating.

On your mark, get set, Go!

You spent time and money to get in the game. You posted some cool photos of your good-looking self. You read three dozen other profiles to see what the competition is writing. You spent hours penning answers to a ton of questions. (Match is not as daunting as the “Famed 400+ Eharmony inane questions.)

After a round of spell-check and a few re-reads/re-writes – you pull the trigger and wait for the party to begin.

One must sort though dozens of photos

You said you want to date someone in the Bay Area and the boys from the    A-States (Arizona, Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas)  are sending you winks, blinks, notes and flirts. Totally Geographically Undesirable.

In time,  you get pretty good at sending out “Intro’s” and waiting for responses.

You exchange emails – chat on the phone and meet with a few people for Coffee. With some there is chemistry – and others – not a match!coffee-690453__180

How long can you “coffee date?” For months or for years? It is your call.

This is your brain on Match after two years:


Take a break – take a breather – try another online dating site – and remain optimistic. There are so many Happily Every After Stories out there…keep your eyes and your heart open.

LOVE 27  Romance Happens.

Dating 101:Can you meet your soul mate on Yelp?

dice-161376__180 Q. Do you Yelp?

 A. Only If I am pinched!

Can you meet your soul mate on Yelp?

Dear Page,

I am 43, single again and decided to start over – and date younger women. I went online – decided to look for women on Yelp. I am a big Yelp Review Dude In three months, I have dated six much younger women – all dead ends.

First, I met Danniey – she said she was 26 and a restaurant critic. Curious, I asked her where she had recently dined she sent me her three recent reviews. This is “whot she wrote”

Too Fat: This place is by far the worst burger place I have went to.

Coming into Fat Burger, three people greeted us. I thought that was so sweet of them. Not a lot of burger joints will greet you that way. Anyways, it took my friend and I a while to figure out what we want. They go by weight of the meat and you have options of toppings to put on your burger

My friend and I got the same meal! Which was the 1/3 burger. The only difference between our food was that I got curly fries and he got skinny fries.

Fowl Play: Once before I got fried chicken with their tartar sauce with sides of rice and potato salad. My food came out and it looked delicious. In my opinion, the portion of the chicken were so big that it was really filling. I enjoyed the potato salad on the side.

It was my friend’s birthday and we decided to drink before we decided to go to this place. It was a little after 10:30pm when we ordered and my friends and I were super hungry. To be honest, I don’t remember being too loud but according to one of the workers there, we were being “way too loud” The owner says,”We’re closed, the kitchen is closed.” Apparently she was trying to kick us out. We will not go back. Ever.

We went to Fishermans Grotto in Frisco – very high class. Really good place to have clam chowder when you are near the Pier. They had two types of clam chowder (Boston and I forgot what the other one was called.) Both served in a bread bowl of desired. I also ordered calamari. It was good but not the best I have had. The place was really fancy and high classed.

On the phone, – she is a sweet girl. I was thinking Eliza Dolittle – then, decided against it.

Next was Shenikqua –  29, divorced, outgoing, friendly and lives in the Mission. Her Yelp handle is “On  a mission.” We spoke on the phone – she really wanted me to go her nail salon with her. She sent me her Yelp review – and this is what she wrote:

Darn, be pretty is taking too much of my time. Me like this nail salon. Gentlemen are welcome too.. I’ve seen several men came in to get their mani, pedi ( without painting ) & also facial treatments..;). You guys will be treated like a King, lol .. Heaven isn’t far away !!

I use to double my happiness by grabbing an Ice Sea Salt Coffee from 85 Bakery ( it was in the same plaza ) and enjoy my Queen’s time …Highly recommend this salon !! Life is short .. Just reward yourself with some simple pleasures …We never know what’s going to happen tomorrow, right ?!!


I knew from the start we probably might not be a fit. Her Nail salon date and review blew me away.

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Then I met Kellie aka “Missy Food Xpert” in San Mateo. She, too, was happy to send me her review of a good restaurant for a first date.

The Fry House

The combination of meat, salad & sauce were delicious and tasty. I can’t help myself when I saw the chili hot sauce, adding on the spice always make it better for me. Be careful if you’re not into spicy side because this sauce is Smocking Hot..

This place is new, clean and fun decorations. There’s tables for dine in but with quite a bit amount of customers it will be hard for a big group or family.

Page, Yelp is not the place to meet single women. I struck out. Any ideas?

New in Town and Searching

Dear New In Town,

You get Gold Stars for trying! First: Date your own decade. Next, look at this: Get Your Mojo Moving. Try those Top 5 tips and let me know how that works for you.

Peace, Page

True Romance: Two SF natives met on in New York


Maureen, working in NYC for six months, wrote this on her profile

I left my heart in San Francisco…

I loved The Bay Lights, cool jazz and piano bars, Lands End, climbing the hill at 28th and Ortega, a full moon near the Bay, films festivals, Paragon Terrace at the Claremont Hotel for Champagne and Pomme Frittes.

 I like eclectic and unique over predictable, MVFF, denim and black cashmere, The Palace of Fine Arts, Keith Jarrett, Sunday NY Times, KCSM, deYoung, Blue Herons, parking places, all things Apple, Nina Simone, sky-diving :)


Patrick, also living in New York for one year, wrote:

I love St Patrick’s, the Met, Yankee Stadium, Times Square and Broadway – but I miss North Beach, Union Square, Napa, the SF Giants, the Farmer’s Market at the Ferry Building, Mama’s for breakfast on Washington Square, Coit Tower and the view from the tower at the deYoung Museum.

Maureen reached out – Patrick responded within a day – they met that night. They met, clicked, dated, both moved back to the City. They climbed the hill at 28th and Ortega- he proposed. They were married within a year.


Wanted: A companion – movies, walks, talks,

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All the lonely people – where do they all come from?

Susanne ( 54, grade school teacher, hiker and baker) of San Francisco is sick and tired of the hide and seek games on  She reports that she  sends a note of interest to a guy who looks ‘attractive’ and, bam! He doesn’t respond or disappears. She is ready to quit the site. Again.

Dennis (67, close to retirement, trivia and chess whiz) is divorced again and lonely. He wants to meet a ‘friend’ – no fuss, no muss, Dutch Treat. He would love to  go to Banging Drum in San Rafael for Trivia night with a buddy. He can’t seem to ‘make new friends’ and would never look online for a friend. He is stumped.

Albert is 52 and bummed. He laments that no one says, “Good morning.” He lives in an Embarcadero high-rise – in a petite condo for a grand price. He thinks everyone in the building is either shy or a snob. Mrs Hannigan on the 21st floor is the one cheery, vivacious person he sees around the building. Albert thought about wearing a T-shirt that says, “Hi! How are you?” He misses talking to his neighbors. He chats up all the checkout clerks – in every store. He smiles at strangers. Do you?

How many people do you talk to every day? Shy or Snob?

What are you willing to do meet other singles in San Francisco?

Tell me:



Dating and trick or treating – the same?

night-995191__180Have you noticed: your first date and trick-or-treating

hauntingly similar?

Both require identical preparations and it’s all about wear and where.


Dressing – or selecting a costume- for Trick or Treating on Halloween and for that all-important first date requires an inordinate amount of time. You want to look good and make a statement. You forage through closets and drawers to select the right thing to wear. Women often aim for hauntingly beautiful or the girl-next-door costume. Good advice for guys is to appear like more like a superhero, less like a monster.


Deciding where to go Trick or Treating or for a first date requires that you carefully plan and plot. Both parties agree to meeting in a safe, well lighted neighborhood. You naturally avoid ‘dark and spooky,’ at all costs. You agree upon the perfect witching hour. Your spirits are up, and it’s time! The scariest thing that can happen? You don’t look like your picture. One of you is spooky, kooky or creepy.  Your costume is all-wrong. At the end of the night, you want to think, “Sweet!”  You don’t want to walk away thinking, “What a witch,” or “What a monster,” and return home empty handed.

Remember: A few kisses are good. You want to avoid sours, Nerds, Screaming Yellow Zonkers, Snickers, jawbreakers and gobstoppers.

Relax, enjoy one another and skip the trick, have fun and go straight for the ‘treats’.

Don’t try this at home:  2015 Spookiest Costume: Donald Trump, the Koch brothers, Marco Rubio, Shrimp Boy…

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Flirting 101: The Irish joust and the French flirt

Originally posted on Suddenly Single in Marin:


Flirting 101: The Irish joust and the French pursue

 When it comes to the rhythms of romance, flirtation, and seduction there are distinct national styles of flirting.

 The French are much more about charm, persuasion, and allure. They are apt to touch your arm, your cheek, look longingly into your eyes and kiss you on both cheeks and wax poetic… while calling you ‘mon petite Chou.’

French men do not blink when they throw you a kooky pick up line – like one of these:

Excuse-moi. Est-ce que tu embrasses les inconnus? Non? Donc, je me présente.
Excuse me, do you kiss strangers? No? Then let me introduce myself….

Bon Jour…Je viens d’arriver dans ta ville. Est-ce que tu pourrais m’indiquer le chemin jusqu’à ton appartement?
Whatszup…I just arrived in this city. Could you tell me the way to your apartment?

The French are famous for hedonism and prioritizing… and…

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