You may have been have been “Lost in Space”…and didn’t even know it.
In the wide, wonderful, world of online dating e-mails, every once in awhile that very special pivotal electronic message gets lost in “Ether Space.”
It’s the Netherworld, that 10th Ring of Hell where, just like socks, e-mails go missing.
What? Me, worry?
And, yes, dear- Online Dating Beginner… it has happened to you. You just didn’t realize it. What you considered to be a rejection or a rebuff,
Single in Sausalito, Rusty, wrote Bernadette a beautifully crafted, romantic poem of epic proportions in response to her invitation for a weekend in the Wine Country. For two days, she patiently perched near her computer waiting for this response. Nada. Zilch. Zero response.
Bernadette sadly concluded Rusty was ‘Not that into her.’
The longer she ruminated- the more she thought – “Heh! Perhaps he was a bit of cur and the she concluded: “What a jerk. Next.”
Upon return from the weekend of swimming, wine tasting, tennis, chess, and charades with her friends, she checked her emails. There she finally discovered the most eloquent, poetic, e-mail from Rusty accepting her invitation. Unfortunately, the long awaited e-mail was lost in the far recesses of Ether Space for several days before surfacing. It happens.
Erin tells the story of meeting “The most wonderful man from Santa Fe” while waiting for a plane at Denver International. Due to “weather” and delayed flights, they spent 4 hours chatting, having coffee and being totally mesmerized with one another. They exchanged business cards and e-mail addrsses and reluctantly boarded planes to their respective homes.
She knew she had met her soul mate. And then, she never heard from him again. She garnered the courage and sent three e-mails- in three weeks- and never heard a word back from her “potential soul mate.” Chalking it up to a “C’est la vie” event – she went on. Disappointed.
One year to the month later, she was in line at the MOMA and ‘Santa Fe guy’ walked up -looked at Erin and point blank asked “Why didn’t you respond to my e-mails?” She asked him the same question.
Lost in Space…She is now Married Erin and living a happily ever after life
There is a new saying, “When in doubt: don’t Rescind the invitation, Resend”.