Nice Guys Finish First
Testing 123- Dating Exercises
He is your brother, cousin, uncle, neighbor, or best friend. Generally he is very smart and lacking social graces (i.e. the old joke: When they were giving out personality traits in Heaven St Peter said, “Who wants a good Personality?” All the nerds heard “Who wants Periodontal disease?” and said, “Not me!”)
My pal, George is the nicest nerd you ever met: smart off the charts, quiet patient and kind. He is an inventor – he loves gizmos and gadgets and spread sheets. And, he has always been painfully shy around girls.
He says he tried online dating once: zip, nada, zero.
Undaunted, he did some analysis. It appeared his taller, Lacrosse playing, tall, blonde, slim friends got more action than he did. In no time, he created four different profiles on OKCupid and Plenty of Fish.
It didn’t take a genius (although he is one) to determine what captured a woman’s attention.George will tell you he went from being a short, scientist to a being a taller, more interesting, creative writer, overnight.
OK Cupid has a blog that explains the most popular buzzwords for men to attract female attention. Plenty of Fish also offers free advice on attention-getting devices.
Research over Drinks
While quaffing at The Grove, his old pal, Biff, (prepped at Exeter/Yale) told George what to look for in a woman. Biff provided his Perfect Woman /Top Five /Must Have List
- A healthy and fit body which delights
- She must be financially solvent.
- Must be emotionally warm, generous, and accessible
- She must come from a happy home life, with parents who were happy and loved her.
- She must love children; and will meet the challenges of parenting with empathy, humor, and wisdom
Now, George knew braggadacio Biff didn’t have a fraction of the things on his My Ideal Woman List…Biff was twice divorced, his parents were lushes who vacationed separately; each had flings and trysts and affairs all their married lives. Biff didn’t have a real job and the trust fund was dwindling.
George went back to drawing board- every day and tweaked, improved, and enhanced the truth.
In a short while, George (aka Rodney, Ted, Billy) actively tested the dating waters. And slowly and clearly he discovered what women want. In time, he tossed his façade profiles – research completed.
George was on Match for one month before he met Megan.Their first phone call lasted 40 minutes – smart guy (“Leave them wanting more”) and he begged off.
Their first date lasted four hours and they have been exclusive ever since.
“The demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions.” Nietzsche