Suddenly Single… Minded

Welcome to the Wild and Whimsical World of Internet Dating

Men disappearing like bubbles in champagne?

10492617_758594434163323_8537492085757067477_nIt can be the best of times. Or not so much.

What happens after the sixth date?

Cindy, one of the “ San Francisco Date Watchers,” said men are like bubbles in Champagne: they disappear.

The ‘Internet Dating Diva’, revealed that most of the men she met online were like bubbles in a glass of Champagne.

That sounded poetic until she shared:  After six dates most guys evaporated and vanished. She admitted the ‘disappearing act’ sometimes happened before the sixth date. Bewitched, bothered and really bewildered, the Date Watchers convened. Eight women – all around the same age (perpetually 39) attended. In keeping with a theme: ‘Sex in the City for Girls Over 50’, pretty pink Cosmopolitans were served.

Fact: give a single woman in San Francisco two Cosmos and you had better be ready to take notes. There was a flood of ideas and beliefs about fast and fleeting dating.

Mae West said, “I only have ‘yes’ men around me. Who needs ‘no’ men?”

Let Them Eat Cake

Maury, who goes by “Will Date for Food“ on a site she has dubbed:, commented that on line dating is like a buffet. People push their trays down the dating buffet line and randomly pick and choose each other.” She continued, “Initially, it’s totally exciting and intoxicating. Eventually, you learn what’s healthy for your body and mind. Sometimes too much of a good thing can be bad, boy.” The group ran with the obvious dessert and desert metaphors.


Cindy concluded with an observation that and other costly on-line cupids perpetuate a ‘candy store mentality.’ If at first you don’t meet Mr. or Ms Right-Now, try another five flavors; there are hundreds of perfect matches, sweetie. She said each day, Match sent her photographs of 15 men who were supposedly a perfect match. She was both dizzy and disappointed by the sheer numbers and plethora of no interest whatsoever-ever. And, yet, she persists.

Sweet nothings: Bon bons or bon mots?

Finally, Janice B, the chef and gracious caterer of the event, raised her glass and said, “Ladies, remember, in this chapter of life, think: Rice. You’ve got to have R-I-C-E-, you know, Respect, Integrity, Chemistry, and Energy. That’s the ticket.” After raucous agreement and applause, the women proposed a Cosmo toast to spring and flings and friends for life.

A hearty salute: to real romance and RICE for all.

Be careful out there.

“There comes a time in every woman’s life when the only thing that helps is a glass of champagne.”

Bette Davis

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