Top 5 things to bring on a first date
4. Identification – Don’t leave home without it.
5. The Speed-dial phone number of your pal, “The Contact Person” – the friend who knows exactly where you are going – with whom (Name, Rank, Serial Number) and, at what time.
Get Smart: Trust your gut – if it doesn’t feel right- it isn’t.
Remember, Binkie, it’s a coffee date – not show and tell. (Leave the bling and the credit cards at home.)
Strangers in the Night? If you are feeling strangely uncomfortable with the person –not just nervous- excuse yourself and call it quits – gently. (“Look at the time, nice meeting you – I’ve got to go. Good luck.”)
Not a Match
It happens. If you feel compelled to provide an explanation, say you have to make a phone call, have to move your car, or meet a friend or get to work. C’est fini.
The Great Escape: Deal-breakers
Men and women both need ‘A Great Escape’ in a truly uncomfortable situation. Let’s say you meet your ‘Perfect Date’ and you notice the ‘Non-smoker’ reeks of smoke and has cigarettes peeking out of their pocket. Time to go? Deal breaker?
Or their rude or quirky behavior freaks you out – that simple. You are uncomfortable and something is so strange you have a visceral reaction.
Pay attention to red flags.