Top 10 Ways to Ruin a First Date
Finally.! After all that s0-called due diligence. You scanned dozens of photos and read all those profiles- some good- some great- some not so much. And, Bingo! It finally happened. After weeks of trawling online for great date, you’ve connected with someone you rather like. You exchanged the requisite three e-mails, two telephone calls, and both decided upon meeting for the proverbial ‘Coffee Date.’
At all costs – avoid these Blunders and Bloopers. Remember: being polite and thoughtful trumps rude.
Don’t Do this:
1. Arrive late and fail to apologize.
2. Post an ancient photo of yourself, which doesn’t even remotely resemble you.
3. Assume the other person will pay for coffee. You are a big girl/boy.
4. Take and make phone calls or Text during the date.
5. Share details about your divorce. Nobody wants to hear about it. Really.
6. Advertise you are divorced, when you’re really separated. Truth in advertising is big in this area, too.
7. Ask your date how much they weigh, their height, age, or salary. Really.
8. Bore your date with stories of your past Trophy Dates and dating adventures.
9. Step out for a smoke. Return with a toothpick. Yawn. Three strikes – yer’ out!
10. “Go HR” this is supposed to be a coffee date, not a job interview. Relax already
Let’s say things are working better than you ever imagined. Now what? How much time do you spend? Thirty minutes? An hour? There are no hard and fast rules. Common sense trumps any dating data. First and foremost, have a good time. And, remember the old saying: “How am I going to miss you, if you don’t go away?”
Now What? It’s the old handshake versus hug conundrum.
As the date ends and you are reluctantly leaving one another, you can gauge the level of interest instantly. Do they go for the handshake or the light hug? A perfunctory handshake (no Rosetta stone required ) simply means, “It was nice meeting you. Next.” Whereas, a light hug means, “ Let’s do this again.” One second date, coming up.
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.”
– Oscar Wilde