Sudden Shifts in romance? Try again!
This week brings suggestions about shifting your dating gears: winking, blinking and getting along. Send your “Single at 50” queries to firstname.lastname@example.org
I am new to online dating. I did everything you said (posted a recent photo, wrote my profile, and enrolled in two different dating sites) and all I get are “winks.” You said winks at the lowest form of communication, you’re right! Tell men everywhere women hate winks. My advice: just write one lousy sentence; there, I feel better!
Linda in Las Vegas
Dear Linda in Las Vegas,
Welcome online dating – quirks and all. You are voicing the opinion of men and women alike. Every week, I get tweets, texts, and lengthy e-mails echoing your same sentiment. Point well taken. See: Page Larkin’s That’s rude! Dating Etiquette Peace and love, Page
Dear Page Larkin,
I met a very hot babe on EHarmony two months ago. We exchanged e-mails for two weeks before she agreed to speak on the phone to confirm our coffee date. Before our date, I Googled her and found her to be “as advertised.” We met at the DeYoung museum, walked around for an hour. We had lunch, split the bill; we walked and talked for another hour. She kissed me goodbye and, crickets! I never heard from her again. I texted and e-mailed, nada. Was it me?
Down and Out Dennis
Dear Down and Out Dennis,
You failed to mention if there was chemistry, heat, or mutual attraction. Manners dictate that a person thank the other for the date. There is an unwritten “law” that – after a first date- two people make plans for future date or they bow out, with a polite “It was nice meeting you, we are not at match.” Move on, Dennis, it wasn’t meant to be. Peace and love, Page
Once I sent out 25 e-mails on OKCupid and not one woman responded. My message was flirty and I thought it was really good. What’s up with women today? Is everyone stuck up?
George in the San Jose
Hey George in San Jose
Tip: remember spell check is your best friend. Take the time to write a message that is coherent, interesting, and logical. Sometimes our efforts to be clever and sarcastic can be misconstrued. Try, try again. Peace and love, Page
My feelings are hurt. I drank the kool-aid signed up for the Match.com seven-day free trial. No one writes back to me! I am 56, 5’6. athletic, smart, cute and fun. I sent out 30 “winks” to all the cutest guys within 50-miles of Atlanta. Not one man responded. Help!
Ashley at Tara
Dear Ashley at Tara,
Good for you for getting out there and trying. Let’s re-calibrate: cancel the“winking.” (See above) It’s a lost cause and rejected by the masses. First, create a short introduction linking you to an attractive man: “I enjoyed reading your profile; especially the comment about… We both like… Please read my profile and if anything resonates, please get back to me. Thanks.”
Try that approach – as opposed to winking. Wait and see- how it works, do get back to me and report. Read: How Rude! Good luck, Page