Suddenly Single… Minded

Welcome to the Wild and Whimsical World of Internet Dating

Sudden Shifts in romance? Try again!

golden-gate-bridge-691925__180This week brings suggestions about shifting your dating gears: winking, blinking and getting along. Send your “Single at 50” queries to

Dear Page,

I am new to online dating. I did everything you said (posted a recent photo, wrote my profile, and enrolled in two different dating sites) and all I get are “winks.” You said winks at the lowest form of communication, you’re right! Tell men everywhere women hate winks. My advice: just write one lousy sentence; there, I feel better!

Linda in Las Vegas

Dear Linda in Las Vegas,

Welcome online dating – quirks and all. You are voicing the opinion of men and women alike. Every week, I get tweets, texts, and lengthy e-mails echoing your same sentiment. Point well taken. See: Page Larkin’s That’s rude! Dating Etiquette   Peace and love, Page

Dear Page Larkin,

I met a very hot babe on EHarmony two months ago. We exchanged e-mails for two weeks before she agreed to speak on the phone to confirm our coffee date. Before our date, I Googled her and found her to be “as advertised.” We met at the DeYoung museum, walked around for an hour.  We had lunch, split the bill; we walked and talked for another hour. She kissed me goodbye and, crickets! I never heard from her again. I texted and e-mailed, nada. Was it me?

Down and Out Dennis

Dear Down and Out Dennis,

You failed to mention if there was chemistry, heat, or mutual attraction. Manners dictate that a person thank the other for the date. There is an unwritten “law” that – after a first date- two people make plans for future date or they bow out, with a polite “It was nice meeting you, we are not at match.” Move on, Dennis, it wasn’t meant to be.                Peace and love, Page

Hey, Larkin,

Once I sent out 25 e-mails on OKCupid and not one woman responded. My message was flirty and I thought it was really good. What’s up with women today? Is everyone stuck up?

George in the San Jose

Hey George in San Jose

Tip: remember spell check is your best friend. Take the time to write a message that is coherent, interesting, and logical. Sometimes our efforts to be clever and sarcastic can be misconstrued. Try, try again.  Peace and love, Page

Dear Page,

My feelings are hurt. I drank the kool-aid signed up for the seven-day free trial. No one writes back to me!  I am 56, 5’6. athletic, smart, cute and fun. I sent out 30 “winks” to all the cutest guys within 50-miles of Atlanta. Not one man responded. Help!

Ashley at Tara

Dear Ashley at Tara, 

Good for you for getting out there and trying. Let’s re-calibrate: cancel the“winking.”  (See above) It’s a lost cause and rejected by the masses. First, create a short introduction linking you to an attractive man:  “I enjoyed reading your profile; especially the comment about… We both like… Please read my profile and if anything resonates, please get back to me. Thanks.”

Try that approach – as opposed to winking.  Wait and see- how it works, do get back to me and report.  Read: How Rude!     Good luck, Page



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