To Gift or Not to Gift- that is the dilemma
New at the dating game and confused about the protocol of gift giving?
There are two very diverse schools of thought on Christmas Gifting While Dating.
1.The leading school of thought believes that research, analysis, and careful planning are a necessity. In addition to making a list and checking it twice, one must do the whole who was naughty versus nice analysis. Thus begins the titanic burden called Romantic Involvement Christmas Handling (RICH).
2. The second, far more appealing philosophy is that anything, beautifully wrapped and involving chocolate, is the perfect present for one and all. No fuss, no muss, and never any of that nasty re-gifting involved.
The most blasé and generic gifts one can buy are: candles, socks, flashlight and pens. By all means, avoid the Oh-no-O-Henry, Gift of the Magi debacle. Combs and watch fobs are guaranteed to displease.
Deborah D. has a social calendar that rivals Dede Wilsey or Lady Gaga. This social butterfly smartly keeps numerous boxes of Godiva chocolates and a small army of chocolate Santas from See’s in her pantry, so she’s always prepared with the perfect little gift. Sweet.
You Better Watch Out – You Better Not Buy
Is there such a thing as going overboard in gifting while dating? Yea, baby!
A big gift ( i.e. an iPad, a Cartier watch, a Tiffany bauble, or a pair of sterling cufflinks from Dalys 1895) speaks volumes and if you want to turn the volume down, think smaller and more discreet.
Here Comes Santa Claws
Each Christmas, bachelor Jack Z heads to the closest Safeway kiosk of gift cards and plucks a dozen gift cards off the wall and his Christmas shopping is done. He buys iTunes and Gap gift cards for “the kids,” Nordstrom gift cards for all his women friends, and specialty restaurant gift cards for everyone else.
Very clever and cost-effective Mary Eileen almost lives at the Dollar Store and buys beautiful gift bags ($1.00) and yards of ribbon ($1.00) trinkets, treasures, baubles and stocking stuffers, and she makes boyfriends, relatives, and neighbors very happy by her frugal thoughtfulness.
Frosty? Getting a Cold Shoulder from a Flame?
Whether you are ‘romantcially involved’ or merely flirting at every given opportunity, think outside the box or gift bag. The art of gift giving is just that: an art. It really requires planning, precision and perspicacity. If, after delivering the perfect Christmas gift, you are not feeling the love?
Remember Trader Joe’s carries the perfect gift: a lump of coal. Ho ho ho.
“Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.” — Camus
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