Dating 101: Are you a perfect match or too picky?
She was street-smart and outgoing.
They went out.
He was intrigued with her cavalier attitude about most things: the odd parking ticket, the merlot stain on the table cloth, the fog that rolled in with the wind and made their cheery picnic a ‘huddle close to keep warm fest.” Nothing seemed to rattle her.
She laughed a lot. She was easy-going.
He smiled. Amused and intrigued.
After the film at the art house, he asked her what she thought of the story. It was a complicated scenario replete with flashbacks, rife with symbolism and tons of irony. She said was “Fine,” she wouldn’t recommend it to any friends, that it was “okay, and not memorable.” She suggested going to Smitten, her new favorite new ice cream emporium. He quickly forgot about the movie was delighted: a women who ate ice cream? Things were getting better and better.
Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary – to his usual dates
Most of his dates were super conscious about being organic, gluten-free, Paleo, and sugar free. He was thrilled to meet a woman who actually wanted to have a dessert. And she laughed – easily and often. Her behavior was somewhat foreign – it had been a long time since he met a single woman in San Francisco who wasn’t uptight, anxious, critical and snarky. Since when did snarky become attractive?
All of his preconceived notions and fears about “Oh, no! Another dead-end date,” evaporated as they enjoyed ice cream together and were laughing. He was relaxed and happy and eating fabulous ice cream with a woman who thought he was “All that.” Could it get any better?
It can happen. Take the heavy shroud off your heart, lighten up, and delete all those preconceived notions about stereotype dates.
I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.