What is she thinking after the first date?
FACT: The difference between the sexes is titanic. This is especially apparent in the early stages of dating.
Think about it: A man takes a woman out on a date and afterwards and muses for a minute
The Big Three Questions:
- Was she cute?
- Was she fun?
- And, did she flirt back with him?
That’s all. C’est fini…
Women, on the other hand…
During and after a date, mull, ponder, dwell and think way too much. As they do an instant replay of the evening they determine if their date was polite, fun, attentive, sweet, kind, flirty – but not overly so- did he ask questions…and the list goes on. And, on. It is what we do.
When did this exhaustive female ‘Post Date Analysis’ start? What happened to, “Hey, that was fun. Let’s do it again. I’ll call you.” And he says, “Deal!”
The Manly Men Have Simple Needs: The Top 10 Things a Man needs to be happy? A Swiss Army Knife, duct tape, a hammer, a tape measure, a barbecue, the remote control, a Giant’s winning streak, a Lazy-boy recliner and a few St. Pauli Girl beers and they are happy. Men leave the house with keys, a money clip and their cell phone.
Conversely, women leave the house with a small suit case -called a handbag -with enough varied supplies to support a small nation. We have pens, paper, an assortment of cosmetics in two, tiny, smart-looking cases, a smart Phone, various To-do and shopping lists, a calendar, Bed, Bath and Beyond coupons, mints and gum, a bottle of water, hair clips that can double as a weapon, the paperback for book club, an energy bar, a small vial of Advil, a magic stone, an extra pair of silver chandelier earrings- just in case; hand cleaner, tissues, a small bag with 6 almonds (Dr Oz’s idea) a sewing kit, band-aids, a metal nail file – can double as a weapon; and a bottle-sample size – of perfume. – just in case.
Save time: cut to the chase
Rather than living in Wonderland (I wonder if she liked me- I wonder if he will call) conclude your first, wonderful date with a hug and a variation of “Shall we do this again?” There are only two answers to the question.
“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” Voltaire