February 14th: the day that strikes fear in the hearts and minds of men
Why do single men hide on Valentine’s Day?
Just try asking a single man to meet you for coffee on the day after February 13th and expect a flood of excuses. There is something about St Valentine’s Day that scares the bejesus out of single, unattached men.
Granted, retail stores started decorating with giant red hearts, Cupids, Heart-shaped boxes of chocolates and pushing Valentine’s Day on January 1.
Dating might be a little scary for some – the whole fear – thing and striking out.
(“Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.” Babe Ruth)
Carpe diem, dude
Meeting a person of the opposite sex for coffee, wine, champagne, or a stroll in Muir Woods or around Stow Lake does not a commitment make…Lighten up and seize the day. Every day.
One Man’s Story: Ethel met Fred online –
He was attracted to her Mae West wit and her affection for (and ownership of) ancient Volvos and Peugeots. Turns out, they both had once tried West Coast Swing, Speed Dating and Praying and Sweating in Sausalito – both failed at all three and laughed about their experiences. They had chemistry, they had conversation and a lot in common. Ethel suggested meeting at The No Name Bar in Sausalito the following day- and Fred blathered and backed off so fast he almost fell off the floor…
He panicked. Being an American Male – once married and expected to provide Roses, Chocolates, Sweet Nothings every February 14th – he had a Pavlovian reaction.
What are you afraid of?
To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead. Bertrand Russell
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” Dale Carnegie
Psst! Are you afraid to make a move?
Every year, there are myriad reports about dating fears, frights and trepidations. There are even dating phobias which are: irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain nouns (persons, places, things)
1. Isolophobia – fear of being alone
2. Athazagoraphobia- fear of being forgotten
3. Gamophobia – fear of marriage
4. Mageirocophobia – fear of cooking
5. Sexophobia – fear of the opposite sex
6. Gynophobia – fear of women
7. Hominophobia -fear of men
8. Clinophobia – fear of going to bed
9. Homilophobia – fear of sermons
10. Nyctophobia- fear of the dark or night
“ The only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified, terror which paralyzes needed efforts…”Franklin D Roosevelt
Flirt Early – flirt often – Blame Cupid
Go on, make a move. Get off the couch, push away from the computer, and go outside and play. What are you afraid of?
Face your fears and they disappear like those tiny bubbles in a glass of champagne.
Whether your are 30 or 60 – Male or Female – A Simple Solution: Send out a few Valentines ~ to every sweetheart, sweetie, crush, object of your flirtations and say Cupid made me do it! Cheers.
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