Burning Man is too hot for me! Don’t make me go!
Tribes, trysts and tribulations of seven days in the desert?
Dear Page Larkin
Karyn and I met on Cinco de Mayo. By June 1, we both ecstatically quit Match.com and we are totally in love and 100% committed. There is one small problem: she wants me to go to Burning Man. I’m 45 and I don’t do dust, deserts, or costume or crowds. Help!
San Francisco Frank
Dear San Francisco Frank,
Is this deal breaker or a relationship hurdle? There are myriad websites on prep, packing, planning, playing and staying at the La Playa. For thousands of people, Burning Man is Mecca – for, you and many others, it could be hell. You obviously already know: no way.
Weather Report: Burning Man Cancelled for one day
Nevada’s Black Rock Desert reopened 6 a.m. Tuesday after it was postponed on its opening day
Burning Man located at Black Rock Desert – a thoroughly flat, prehistoric lakebed, composed of a hardpan alkali – daytime temps often exceed 100ºF and the humidity is way low.
There’s that. Yes, the week-long event has a reputation for the bizarre (birthday suits, nipple piecing, bacchanalia) and thousands of fans go to Burning Man- every year- to play in the Playa, to frolic and admire the art. Aficionados know it takes a village to pull off this multi-faceted event. No, this isn’t a romantic spa weekend.
Doing Everything Together?
This might have been the case- say, when you were 20. However, by the time you hit the big 4-0, you begin to appreciate your own space, downtime, private time, as well as robust romantic relationship time. Talk to Karyn – express your support for her, your concerns and lack of interest. Tell her how you feel, Frank….and
Be happy that Rain Dance you did worked – Burning Man was postponed…
(and, Tuesday, the gates are open and the party commences)
Steve Jones, famed San Francisco Bay Guardian writer – is a Burning Man savant. He made the rounds with his Chiclets teeth and sparkling blue eyes – promoting his book all about Burning Man- the history and hysteria – entitled, The Tribes of Burning Man – check it out.
NET YEAR: If your heart-throb is passionate about Burning Man – the least you can do is come up to speed about the event.
Show her you care – enough to research, revel and cheer her on.
“So I took off all my clothes and got into the shower with a man I’d never met before. It turned out to be the best decision I ever made”. She Said – Burning Man 1999
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