Dating 101: Your right to remain silent? Absolutely
There you are, perched on a bar stool, dressed to impress, meeting Jesse (cook, sports fan and mystery lover) from Fairfield, for the first time.
You met on OKCupid – his photos were okay, his comments were cute and quirky and he had a certain Je ne se quoi…He said he was passionate
about sports and cars. You exchanged four flirty emails before he said, “Let’s meet.” You suggested talking on the phone and he disappeared for a day.
He re-surfaced and sent his phone number with “I dare you to call me.”
With more points in the “quirky” than cute column – you act on his dare and call.
Strange phone calls are huge red flags
Jesse answers the phone, mumbles hello, asks how you are then asks for your address. You deftly side step that one and he asks where you work, you say, “I’ll tell you when I see you.” You think, “A man who asks questions, how refreshing.”
He suggests meeting at an eclectic ( read:funky) bar. It sounds novel and mysterious and you agree. (Note: novel/mysterious belong in a bookstore not a bar.)
Your right to remain silent
The first date lesson: When a man starts asking you where you work and how much money you make, start pulling your purse towards you; when he asks what you are tipping the scales at, reach for your keys; if he even dares to ask your “true age,” continue with ‘Your right to remain silent’- refuse to dignify the questions and bolt.
No need to assuage, to be sweet or charming. Say goodnight, Gracie.
You told a good friend where you were going, who you were meeting and at what time. Upon departure, call your contact person and let them know you are leaving – details later – leave.
Mark this one up to “failed to notice all the red flags” and next time don’t be in a rush to have a date and embrace the fact that quirky” at this age doesn’t bode well.
You never have to answer uncomfortable questions…from a date…or a policeman, Binkie. Remember that…