Suddenly Single… Minded

Welcome to the Wild and Whimsical World of Internet Dating

Boyfriends: are you making a list – checking it twice?

In college, we played the  “My Boyfriend Must Have” game.

We were a bunch of girls in a dorm – fueled by boredom and Sangria.

We would make lists and dream up the perfect boyfriend…

Our  answers ran the gamut from: My Boyfriend Must Have: a cool car,  a job,  a 4.0, a credit card, no roommates, soft lips and warm hands – to a passport and a trust-fund.

Naturally, our answers changed with time – cool cars became less important.

One Man’s Shopping List – 2012

Crystal, 46, recently divorced and new to online dating sent me a a ‘must have list from her new sweetheart.  He had created a very specific  “My Perfect Mate  Must Have List.”  She asked me my professional opinion,  was he “a keeper” or, too controlling? Take a look at this list-

 ‘The Top Ten Must Have’ list from “Buff Walnut Creek Biker”

My perfect mate must have:

  • A healthy and fit body which delights
  • You must maintain loving relations with long term and close friends, and family.
  • You must love children; you meet the challenges of parenting with empathy, humor, and wisdom
  • To keep up with me you have to have an active mind; you must have resolved the key issues of your life.
  • Must be emotionally very wise and comfortable
  • Must be emotionally warm, generous, and accessible
  • You must be financially solvent.
  • You must come from a happy home life, with parents who were happy and loved you.
  • You’ve must have been married, and know what it takes to make such a lifetime commitment work.

Is he Mr. Right or Listless?

Without wasting any time, I advised Crystal to delete and move on. Any man with a shopping list this demanding and specific – seeking  a Barbie Doll, is barely worth the time it takes to hit the delete button.




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