Best advice for online dating: Keep it simple, sweetie
Whether you are on your virgin voyage – writing your very first online dating profile – or re-writing it for the tenth time,
avoid TMI (too much information.)
Leave something up to the reader’s imagination.
Coy and cute is far superior to a barrage of cold, hard facts linked together like a shopping list. Okay, so you are proud of your car, career, cats, kids, kayaking prowess, philately or church choir debut. Merely listing these attributes or accomplishments is dull times three.
And, yes, it’s great your kid just graduated from an Ivy League school – however, all that bragging about your offspring (a la Pimp My Kid) might just as well be mentioned later. Every day, there is a new parade of hopeful romantics who sign up for Match, JDate, and Perfect Match and Plenty of Fish – your goal: grab attention, quietly.
Don’t try this at home
Remember: quirky isn’t cute; it’s been done and it’s a bore. The 2001 photograph of you dressed as a French maid or peeking over feather duster may garner the wrong kind of attention. And, writing your profile – from your dog’s point of view – may have been funny for a sixth-grade assignment, but not at this juncture.
Bragging about your myriad accomplishments – medals, trophies, and clubs? Slow down and wait on that. Finally, thinking about blasting or attacking your evil Ex? Fuggedaboutit. No one wants to hear about your divorce – or your colonoscopy. Seriously.
It’s all about you.
Take the time to look at what other people your age are writing. Review the profiles of people your own age. Check out the competition. Some dating profiles will inspire, others will bore, and some may spark your attention. It’s called ‘comparative shopping,’ and it works.
So, bravo for you – and have fun as you navigate the waters of the dating pool.
“I’ll try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure.” — Mae West
San Francisco Dating@50 Examiner Page Larkin, welcomes your feedback, questions and queries at Page.Larkin@gmail.com. Don’t miss a single Page Larkin column — click the Subscribe button at the top of the page.
All Page Larkin Dating@50 Examiner articles © 2012 by Page Larkin; reposts permitted