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Welcome to the Wild and Whimsical World of Internet Dating

Dating: Swan Dive or Belly Flop?

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MerryKay really wanted to fall in love again.

She signed up for Plenty of Fish, OKCupid and Craigslist Singles. No Luck: Zip, zero, nada. She said she  had been kissing a lot of frogs and wanteded to meet her Prince Charming.

She made the big mistake of hiring a so-called Matchmaker and went on three dates with totally incompatible men in three months and lost the $3000 she paid upfront.

Tired of failure, she decided to try a new tact. She signed up for Speed Dating at a downtown hotel. Like a Girl Scout, Prepared, she had five questions to ask the men across the table:

1. Tell me about your best friend.
2. Tell me about you very worst job.
3. What was your very first car?
4. What was your best job?
5. Tell me about your family and where you grew up.

One guy said she sounded like a cop, another laughed at her and told her to “Relax.” The third guy got up and walked away. Defeated and dejected she crumpled the list and just smiled when the next man sat down. He took out his list of questions and interviewed her.

She had good answers. He was lost and adrift after he posed the queries and just sat there looking at his hands…

She hurried away from Speed Dating. Never to return. Next!

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New at the Dating Game? So is this lady

Caught in the World Wide Web
of laughs, lines, and libertines
And, this ain’t no Charlotte’s Web

Dear Page,

I am one to peruse Match.com on occasion – okay, twice a day -whether I need to or not.
I have grown accustomed to his smiles. You know – the smiles of the guys in the 40 to 50 year old range.

That’s my milieu, 40-50…Match advises a decade age span to best attract the future date of the month.
If I were to listen to Rayella, in my yoga class, I would subscribe to her theory that all guys on the WWW lie.
She said, “None of the men online are the age they claim to be” She said, “All of them use photos from years ago.”
Antique photos?

No, no, say it isn’t so…
I dismissed her pessimism and attributed that dour point of view to her curly red hair and whiny personality…
in addition, she is a size 2, you know what that means-what could she possibly know?

An optimist, and new at the new scene for singles, I hopped aboard the Fun Train of Internet dating and before I could memorize my new password, 27 men had looked me over and 16 had winked at me.

Well, maybe it was a blink. Could be a nervous twitch. So I started winking, blinking, nodding.The conundrum, is -Socrates asked it first – (Frosh year philosophy)
What is truth?

On my virgin voyage on Craigslist – I posted a flirty ad.  I met a  man who fianlly admitted he was married (instantly declared null and void)

met one playboy /one dating dabbler, and some very angry people.

…and then were the 40 yr olds and the 65 year olds and then the “photo only” types, the “hit and runs” – mean and caustic remarks posted and then they vanish sans backbone.

I thought: It’s got to get better. And it did. Although, not online.

Best to all of us singles in this quest.

I doff my cap -and quoff my cafe latte – to all those enterprising men and women out there – skating through life – skating on the thin ice of internet dating…

Gina in Burlingame

Dear Gina in Burlingame,

I love this Steve Jobs quote about starting over- see if it fits for you.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.   Steve Jobs

Deja vu all over again? Dating today and Yogi Berra

Yogi Berra- the Wit – half th time – Enjoy!

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Was it Mr. Malaprop himself, Yogi Berra, who said, “It’s not how you play the game; it’s all about scoring”?

Kathy, the Pilates Princess of Burlingame, revealed that she was striking out with the men floating around the Internet. She said she kept running into men with an interest in scoring and zero interest in commitment or relationships. Her goal this Merry month of May  is to sign up on a new dating site. She wants to improve her dating chances by trying a new ‘niche-dating site.’

There are hundreds of dating sites to choose from — you’ll see sites for every hobby, club, interest, age, race, color and creed.

As Yogi Berra said, “If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.” If you have made too many “Wrong mistakes,”

Here are five unique ‘niche-dating sites’ you might want to take a swing…

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friends jealous of your success in love?

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Dear Page Larkin,
I have been a fan of your column for over five years. Thanks to you, I got back in the dating game and followed your guidelines. Slowly but surely, I started having the time of my romance life.
At first, I did that cafeteria dating, I just picked what “looked good.” Eventually, I got serious. I’ve met some very interesting, wonderful guys.

Two years ago, I met the love of my life, thanks to following your tips.
My problem is this: three people at work watched me and noticed my success- and want me to teach them everything I know.
Naturally, I told them to read your column. None of them have done so, they want me to do the heavy lifting for them: write their profiles, do the research and help them. They are like Cling-ons. Yuck. Right now I’m in the world of romance, I have no interest helping them. What do you think?
Madly in love in Milpitas

Dear Madly in love in Milpitas,
What great news! So glad you found the love of your life. It happens! Everyday…
With regards to your ”friends”- you were very wise to step aside and step away.
It takes energy, drive, time and conviction to get back in the dating game.
You are correct, they need to do the heavy lifting. Why not suggest they sign sign up for my Dating 101 Workshop? The four- hour workshop is a swift kickstart for singles who want to enter the wide world of dating – and may be shy or reluctant.

Contact me: Page.larkin@gmail.com

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Confused Single Men & a Few Good Women?

The Manly Men Confused by a Really Good Thing….

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This week’s mail brought letters about Single Guys who don’t know how good they have it.

Dear Page Larkin,

Help! Our brother (divorced, 59, executive, thinks he is a ladies man) drives us crazy. In the last five years we watched him date, Dumb and Dumber, Clueless, The Jerk, and Tammy.

He recently met a very nice woman- about his age, successful, smart, and fun; everyone likes her. She has her own company; and what she sees our brother, we don’t know.

However, they’ve been dating for a few months-and he just started complaining that she left a couple of things at his house. The guy went ape over a water bottle! How do I tell my brother he’s darn lucky to be dating this Perfect 10?

Concerned Sister in Los Gatos.

Dear Concerned Sister Los Gatos,

You’re a good sister to care so much. ItIs sounds like…

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Dan Rather: Beacon of Logic and Light

lead_960Esteemed American journalist and the former news anchor for the CBS Evening News, Dan Rather, posted this on his Facebook Page

May 16, 2017
Dan Rather
2 hrs ·
I end each of my days with a silent prayer for my country. It has been a ritual for some time, but as of late I feel an anxiety gripping my heart and a sadness permeating my soul that seems unlike anything I have felt before.

I hope against hope as I slip off to sleep that our rapid descent into governmental chaos has hit a nadir – only to awaken to a new set of incoherent tweets or explosive headlines from top-notch reporters. And with that, we are falling once again. As I fall, we fall, even further, I pray again that our Constitutional government, the great gift of our Founding Fathers, will provide a safety net to catch us before everything we hold dear is no more. I believe that is the case, but the slowly rising level of uncertainty is not to be ignored.

I see recklessness where we need leadership… and I am deeply saddened.
I see politicians putting power and politics over principle… and I am incredulous.
I see lies treated as truths… and I am disgusted.
I see justice denied and likely obstructed…. and I am fearful.
I see norms flaunted… and I am angry.
I see global challenges going unaddressed… and I am worried.
I see the press under attack… and I am furious.
I see this, and more, so much more… and I am exhausted.

I find myself returning in my mind to dark days from the past, trying to remember how we as a nation felt, when Pearl Harbor was attacked, when Kennedy was shot, when Watergate took down a President, when terrorists rained terror from the skies. We somehow overcame.

And I do believe that we shall overcome, someday. Perhaps, hopefully, someday soon.

But in the end, prayer will not be enough. Action, sustained action, will be required.

Dan Rather

Best Mother’s Day card: top 10 best quotes

Happy Mother’s Day~~~

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Mother’s Day Cards – the great debate: hand made or Hallmark?

From your heart and soul or from the factory? You decide.

Hearts on a line

Mother’s Day cards have been written on colorful construction paper, Big- Chief lined tablets,  on paper plates, balloons, and napkins.

There are no rules – just make sure you’ve got a card and a great sentiment.

Top Ten Best Quotes

Every May children are encouraged by diligent teachers to pull out their crayons and their imaginations and create a special Mother’s Day wish… Little imaginations go wild and kids acknowledge mothers for their favorite things: peanut butter sandwiches, love, kisses, pizza, and for being the most ‘beauty ful-est’ mother in the whole wide world.

A Blank Slate?

If you are caught short this morning and need to complete that very special card to your Mom – and are coming up dry for all the myriad wonderful things…

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What are men thinking? The brain of the manly man

Men have one thing in mind…

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Are men happier?

It all started when cavemen went on the Annual Mastodon Hunting Trip leaving cave women and cave children behind.


The women put the cave kids to bed early, pulled out the equivalent of Kick-a-poo joy juice, sat around the fire- invented by a woman- grunted and laughed and shared about their husbands who “acted like Neanderthals.”

Fast forward a few eons to a meeting  of  ‘The Salon’  a dozen women, all hovering around  5o, pondering about men: What makes men so happy?

Seriously, is there anything new under the sun about elusive happiness and the basics of the sexes?

Eve did it…Adam did it

From the inception of time, people have mused and metaphor-ed about little boys- frogs, snails and puppy dog tails versus little girls- sugary, spicy and everything nicely organized.

Brainy author, Louann Brizendine tackled the subject in her first book about pretty…

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Sex drive in neutral? 4 Fab Libido-Lifting Foods to the resuce

Oysters on the half shell – not the solution anymore.

There is a school of thought which professes eating oysters and quaffing champagne as the panacea to a low flying libido. For centuries, oysters have long been deemed the food of love. Myth has it the lustful Casanova ate dozens of oysters a day. Rumor has it, chilies and curries may heat up you sex life, too. Others swear dark chocolate is the key to carnal knowledge.

The Wizard, Dr Oz The famous and ubiquitous Dr Oz has recently come out the Top Four Lust Enhancing super foods. Batteries, champagne and chocolate, not included.

If your sex drive is in ‘neutral’, get thee to a grocery store, today, and pick up these Dr. Oz ideas for enhancing your sexual appetite.

The Fab Four Foods to Whet your Sexual Appetite:


1. Ginger – When you are hot – a stimulating and warming herb said to increase circulation all over.

2. Halibut – A fish known to be so delicious and so promiscuous – leaves you wanton – more? The real thrust is Omega-3’s – a must for “the Big O” says Dr O.

3. Pumpkin Seeds -a handful of these tiny seeds is said to be a” kick start” for your libido and increase- a desire to be romantically inclined.

4. Asparagus, instantly recognized by its own suggestive shape, happens to be high in vitamin E, considered one of the sex hormone stimulants.

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What’s on the Menu Tonight?

Check other people’s shopping baskets as you cruise the aisles of the grocery store today.  You should see a veritable school of fish, bags of pumpkin seeds, ginger by the handful, and bunches of asparagus.

Remember: Don’t be bitter…be sweet

Simply add a healthy dose of candlelight, fresh flowers, soft music and bon appetite and bon nuit, baby cakes.

Passionate for an Aphrodisiac? Good news: Chocolate does contain an active ingredient called phenyl ethylamine that is natural and effective for stimulating sex drive.

Yum!

Bitter

May 7 National Love Letter Day- prepare to swoon

There are no rules: Love letters can written on parchment, on brown paper bags, on the backs of airline tickets, sale receipts, on a post-it note or a linen handkerchief…
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National Love Letter Day: John Steinbeck’s Most Romantic Letter about Love

Hailed as: The 2017 Most Romantic Love Letter 

John Steinbeck’s 1958 letter to his son, about Love, will make you swoon. This beautiful, whole-hearted letter to his  teenage son, Thom – is in response to the boy who declares his love for a girl named Susan. The sweet and tender words of wisdom are to be cherished.

New York November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable.

The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love. But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you. Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it. The object of love is the best and most beautiful.

Try to live up to it. If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration. Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also. It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it. We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away. Love, Fa

John Steinbeck Book of Letters http://www.amazon.com

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.

Ann Landers

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