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Kiss me, hug me, shake my hand: First date dilemma?

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To hug or not to hug? That is the question.

The ‘Hot date’ is over and you come to that awkward dating dilemma: Do you kiss, hug or shake hands?
If the date was lousy and he or she eerily reminds you of Christopher Walken, the quick “Oh, look at the time!” and a handshake is appropriate.

Conversely, if the date was pure bliss and you’re already planning the next rendezvous, and strains of Andrea Bocelli’s sexy song, “Besame Mucho” are running through your mind, go with the wrap-around hug.

(Kissing optional and usually appreciated. Mucho?)

Hugs are free and one-size-fits-all

Different people express love and affection in different ways. Some countries are known for passion, romance languages, and love. Italians don’t merely shake hands; they wrap you in a hug and kiss you on both cheeks. As they say: Eskimos nose how to kiss cool…
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“A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don’t pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don’t feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.”

Helen Fisher

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Suddenly Single... Minded

kisssTo hug or not to hug?  That is the question.

The ‘Hot date’ is over and you come to that awkward dating dilemma:  Do you kiss, hug or shake hands?

If the date was lousy and he or she eerily reminds you of Christopher Walken, the quick “Oh, look at the time” and a handshake is appropriate.

Conversely, if the date was pure bliss and you’re already planning the next rendezvous, and strains of Andrea Bocelli’s sexy song, “Besame Mucho” are running through your mind, go with the wrap-around hug.

Kissing optional and usually appreciated. Mucho?

Hugs are free and one-size-fits-all

Different people express love and affection in different ways. Some countries are known for passion, romance languages, and love. Italians don’t merely shake hands; they wrap you in a hug and kiss you on both cheeks. As they say: Eskimos nose how to kiss cool…

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Divorce: a long and winding road….or a rocky road?

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Rocky Road…
not just an ice cream flavor…

Remember ~Every divorce is like a snowflake – no two are alike…

 If 50% of us are going to divorce or are in the midst of a divorce or are divorced….
What do you do to get through  the day?

 So, how does a Suddenly Single person in SAN FRANCISCO cope?

  • Attend Church?
  • Attend to exploring all forms of Chocolate?
  • Withdrawing?
  • Scouring the FunCheap for Singles Events?
  • Attending movie matinees?
  • Shopping for a hearty round of Retail Therapy?
  • Investing in and using reams of Kleenex?
  • Quick Shots of Paleo Friendly Patron Tequila?
  • Reading Best Sellers? Or mindlessly reading Danielle Steele?
  • Sitting mindlessly in front of TV wondering, “What the heck am I doing?”
  • Creating elaborate voodoo dolls of Ex and reveling in acupuncture on same.
  • Jogging around and around the Marina or Lake Merced?
  • Attending every CITY ARTS AND LECTURES event?
  • Hanging out at The HaRa or Spruce nursing mojitos? Not what you mint…
  • Cruising the Saturday morning Farmer’s Market buying bushes of basil?
  • Whining At Wine Bars? Yielding at Yield?
  • Booking way too many appointments with your therapist?
  • Attending mass, services, synagogue daily?
  • Do you find yourself pining for”The Twins” on Nob Hill?
  • Are you walking around the Grace Cathedral labyrinth multiple times?
  • Do you find yourself staring at a Thomas Kincaide painting for extended time?
  • Are you glued to CSPAN?
  • Have you tried ALL 31 Flavors?
  • Have you read Divorce for Dummies at the library, a chapter at a time,  – too embarrassed to bring it home?
  • Do you dream of meeting Michael Krasney, Charlie Rose,  Brian Lamb of CSPAN? and consider volunteering at KQED?
  • Have you “suited up” and tried jogging and remembered you hate exercise?
  • Does the Haight now seem charming?
  • Does Union Street all of a sudden seem less appealing – and much less like it was in the good old days? Where are the Henry Africa’s?  Thomas Lords? The Cooperage?

It is sobering to realize those ” kids” you see at the bar at Perry’s –  those kids may be the same age as YOUR kids… and, my dear, they have bumped you off your pedestal…it’s musical chairs and, now,  it’s their turn.

It is time: You simply need to find a new vehicle,  a fresh point of view and understanding of what the dating game looks like now. Pay no attention  to the man  behind the curtain.

Take it from me- the next chapter of your life – ACT II can be much more fulfilling…exciting…rewarding.

All it takes is vision- and stamina – some creativity and a dollop of reality.

Sure, easier said than done.  Push yourself away from the computer, the TV,   at the  fish tank and  Get up.  Put your shoes on. Get out of the house.  Go for a walk…

(That was Step One  – repeat daily)

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Help! I might strike out?

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Dear Page Larkin,

I realize I have a leg up on crazy. Admittedly, I’ve been single for way too long. I am 55, divorced twice, no kids and happy. However, now  I know I am rounding third and heading for home!

I have been dating a former San Francisco Giant team member for six months. He is a really great guy who frequently talks in baseball lingo. My whole wardrobe has morphed into black and orange -because he “gifts” me with old Giants gear. No complaints. I like being a “Giants Babe.”

We have lot of fun – he is a real  kidder who uses a lot of puns, and loves to play with words. We have one small, tiny problem.

HEARTSTHe asked me a poignant question. It stopped me in my tracks.

He asked me if I was there for the game…or the season…It doesn’t the a “Giant” brain to decipher the code.

What should I say? I don’t want to take hike..

Help,

I like Dutch Treat

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Dear “I like Dutch Treat”

It sounds as though you have met a really great guy, who appreciates you – quirks and all.   Embrace it! Carpe diem and keep you eye on the ball. You have given us all enough clues to know exactly who your are dating – seize the day.

Love, 

Page Larkin
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12 Daze of Christmas? Overkill or over the moon?

Too good to be true? Letter from Ms Out to Lunch

Suddenly Single... Minded

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Dear Page Larkin,

Too many Christmas Gifts? Is there such a thing?

My boyfriend really embraced the 12 days of Christmas last year. He literally bathed me in extravagant gifts

Day 1. On the first day, he surprised me and gave me golf lessons at Cinnabar Country Club in Morgan Hill. Then we went to Guglielmo  Winery for private tasting with the owner, Gene.

Day 2. He gave me a uni-sex Robert Graham shirt from Scott Lyall in Napa.

Day 3. I received a beautiful umbrella with peacock feathers design from Pennyweight in St. Helena.

Day 4. I got gift certificate for a flight of wine from Hall winery  which is like going to Wine Disneyland. We stopped off at Dean and Deluca for Chocolate Babka.

Day 5. He presented me with A Bliss for the Body Massage gift card for Auberge du Soliel. Yay!

Day…

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Have you ever read a Trip Advisor review?

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Can’t get there from here?

Trip Advisor told Helene G – after six years of hotel and restaurant reviews, with hundreds of “likes” and tens of thousands of people reading her reviews, that she was “stuck” at Number 49 Best San Francisco Reviewer.

Thy wrote, “If she tried harder”  in her spare time-and gave them another 10 to 20 additional reviews, she might be catapulted up to Number 45 Best San Francisco Reviewer. And!  She would receive a gift.

She got a Trip Advisor Luggage Tag last year.

Helen G looked at the competition.

Number 48 was OJI, a Japanese male, age 20 to 25, who wrote his reviews in Japanese. This kid got around. He wrote succinct, two-lined comments of dozens of places all over the world. No doubt, a flight attendant.

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Number 47, Hank was a 20 to 30-year-old male, engineer who wrote one-line synopses of dozens of places around the world.

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Helen G. writes, that she had taken  the time to write thoughtful, smart, insightful reviews.

The light bulb went off when she realized that waxing poetic and eloquent got her zip.  She needed to crank out two dozen short, sweet, reviews and she would be catapulted to San Francisco’s Top Reviewer. That is exactly what she did.

Trip Advisor sent her a crummy plastic Key Ring. Really?

 And then she quit.

She had smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye when she opened that Yelp account.

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San Francisco: famous for hills and falls

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Yes, Rome has it’s seven famous hills and San Francisco has seven times more hills. As a result:

The Hills are alive with the sound of falling.

How many hundreds of pretty Prom Princesses in super-high heels have tried to walk up California Street to the Fairmont or the Mark Hopkins for the Big Dance? And then tried to step lightly across cable car tracks and the bumpy bricks in the driveway at the Mark?

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They are ripping up the streets of the City. While, it once was a breeze to pop downtown, park and be at an event in no time…with traffic and all the new One Way Streets and Detours- it is no longer a simple act. Tripping over the ripped up streets is a common day downtown occurrence.

A warning sign for the public

Ow! Well heeled:

Remember: Once upon a time, Women working  downtown, changed from their running shoes to heels at their desks. Fewer sprained table, skinned knees and bonks on the head. Smart.

And now, wearing flat heeled shoes has become de rigeur on the Hills of San Francisco. Very smart.

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Bloggers: How To Unsplash a photograph

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Free High Res Photographs

and this dazzling photograph mirrors my affection for

spectacular photography.

Photo by Kalen Emsley of Canada

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Mae West- Advice on Vice

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Called a spade a shovel – in a Yogi Berra kind of fashion.

She eloquently said, “When I’m good I’m very, very good, but when I’m bad, I’m better. 
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“Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.”

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SFO rocks: great date destination

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“San Francisco is a mad city – inhabited for the most part by perfectly insane people whose women are of a remarkable beauty.”   Rudyard Kipling

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“A city is where you can sign a petition, boo the chief justice, fish off a pier, gaze at a hippopotamus, buy a flower at the corner, or get a good hamburger or a bad girl at 4 A.M. A city is where sirens make white streaks of sound in the sky and foghorns speak in dark grays. San Francisco is such a city.”            Herb Caen

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San Francisco has been called “The Most Romantic City in the World” for obvious reasons. Would you agree?

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Speed Dating at 50? Buckle Up, Binkie

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Speed date, blind date, brunch date, dinner date, fixed up,

cyber date, serial date, polydate.

So many dates, so little time. Take you time and don’t get caught speeding through conversations.

Buckle Up, Baby. Remember, it doesn’t have to be a Bumpy Ride.

Kelly, a serious serial dater, has two interview skills and claims that’s all she needs. She listens carefully and asks a handful of questions, which launch 100 word answers. Like a fly fisherman, she deftly snaps the line into the water and allows the date do his job.

The Top 20 Questions to Get the Conversation Rolling.

1. Tell me about your best friend.
2. Tell me about you very worst job.
3. What was your very first car?
4. What was your best job?
5. Tell me about your family and where you grew up.
6. Tell me about your very favorite relative.
7. Tell me all the places you’ve worked.
8. Who is your favorite female movie star?
9.  What hobbies do you spend money on?
10. What’s you very favorite song?
11. Tell me one really life-changing moment?
12. When did you meet your very first girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. Where and when was your first kiss and with whom?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Tell me the most romantic date you’ve ever planned.
17. They say, “Women shop and men buy.” What is one store you wouldn’t be caught dead in?
18. Have you ever used drugs?
19. Tell me what your perfect day-off looks like?
20. If someone gave you two free tickets to anywhere in the world – where would you go?

 Getting the Conversation Rolling: Try one or 10 of these questions next time you meet another interesting, available person. Bon Chance!

“I want relations which are not purely personal, based on purely personal qualities; but relations based upon some unanimous accord in truth or belief, and a harmony of purpose, rather than of personality. I am weary of personality. Let us be easy and impersonal, not forever fingering over our own souls, and the souls of our acquaintances, but trying to create a new life, a new common life, a new complete tree of life from the roots that are within us.

D. H. Lawrence

San Francisco Dating@50 Examiner, Page Larkin, welcomes your feedback, questions and queries at Page.Larkin@gmail.com.

 

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