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Valentine’s Day: Worst Night of the Year to go out to dinner?

Stop! Don’t do it!

Cancel the reservation at the San Francisco so-called romantic, expensive, restaurant – now!

(But, the candle light! The free, long-stemmed, red rose…the amuse bouche…the artisanal choclilava and the ambiance!)

Stay home-  skip the highly touted ‘Most Romantic Restaurants’

Cost, crowds, chaos: Dinner for Two at Waterbar, Quince, Acqua, La Folie…Gary Danko… are going to set you back a few bills, Bill.

Binkie baby, If you need a tablecloth, waiter, candlelight and dropping $200+ to create romance – you are with the wrong partner, dude.


Hot Tip: Pop into Falletti’s Foods and pick up a fabulous dinner (check out romantic treats from: Straus, Cowgirl Creamery, Niman Ranch and from the impressive Butcher Shop and Deli, Alter Eco …throw in a bottle of Kopriva Chardonnay – and a sweet from  Delessio‘s bakery…and,Voila! Isn’t it romantic?






Make a Valentine – Create your own 

Best Romantic Quotes:

If you are not too long, I will wait here for you all my life.   Oscar Wilde

Kiss me and you will see how important I am.   Sylvia Plath

There is no charm equal to tenderness of heart    Jane Austen

There is no instinct like that of the heart.   Lord Byron

I’m a romantic; a sentimental person thinks things will last, a romantic person hopes against hope that they won’t. Scott Fitzgerald

Of all the music that reached farthest into heaven, it is the beating of a loving heart. Henry Ward Beecher

A man’s kiss is his signature. Mae West

drinxRomantic Dinner – On a budget? Skip over to Trader Joes and quickly  create a romantic dinner for two. Bon soir!


 Psst: Bankrate says Americans spend upwards of $500  for Valentines to prove their love. Seriously?hearts74__180

Sudden Shifts in romance? Try again!

golden-gate-bridge-691925__180This week brings suggestions about shifting your dating gears: winking, blinking and getting along. Send your “Single at 50” queries to

Dear Page,

I am new to online dating. I did everything you said (posted a recent photo, wrote my profile, and enrolled in two different dating sites) and all I get are “winks.” You said winks at the lowest form of communication, you’re right! Tell men everywhere women hate winks. My advice: just write one lousy sentence; there, I feel better!

Linda in Las Vegas

Dear Linda in Las Vegas,

Welcome online dating – quirks and all. You are voicing the opinion of men and women alike. Every week, I get tweets, texts, and lengthy e-mails echoing your same sentiment. Point well taken. See: Page Larkin’s That’s rude! Dating Etiquette   Peace and love, Page

Dear Page Larkin,

I met a very hot babe on EHarmony two months ago. We exchanged e-mails for two weeks before she agreed to speak on the phone to confirm our coffee date. Before our date, I Googled her and found her to be “as advertised.” We met at the DeYoung museum, walked around for an hour.  We had lunch, split the bill; we walked and talked for another hour. She kissed me goodbye and, crickets! I never heard from her again. I texted and e-mailed, nada. Was it me?

Down and Out Dennis

Dear Down and Out Dennis,

You failed to mention if there was chemistry, heat, or mutual attraction. Manners dictate that a person thank the other for the date. There is an unwritten “law” that – after a first date- two people make plans for future date or they bow out, with a polite “It was nice meeting you, we are not at match.” Move on, Dennis, it wasn’t meant to be.                Peace and love, Page

Hey, Larkin,

Once I sent out 25 e-mails on OKCupid and not one woman responded. My message was flirty and I thought it was really good. What’s up with women today? Is everyone stuck up?

George in the San Jose

Hey George in San Jose

Tip: remember spell check is your best friend. Take the time to write a message that is coherent, interesting, and logical. Sometimes our efforts to be clever and sarcastic can be misconstrued. Try, try again.  Peace and love, Page

Dear Page,

My feelings are hurt. I drank the kool-aid signed up for the seven-day free trial. No one writes back to me!  I am 56, 5’6. athletic, smart, cute and fun. I sent out 30 “winks” to all the cutest guys within 50-miles of Atlanta. Not one man responded. Help!

Ashley at Tara

Dear Ashley at Tara, 

Good for you for getting out there and trying. Let’s re-calibrate: cancel the“winking.”  (See above) It’s a lost cause and rejected by the masses. First, create a short introduction linking you to an attractive man:  “I enjoyed reading your profile; especially the comment about… We both like… Please read my profile and if anything resonates, please get back to me. Thanks.”

Try that approach – as opposed to winking.  Wait and see- how it works, do get back to me and report.  Read: How Rude!     Good luck, Page



Sudden Shifts




Today’s Top 10 Fun Things to do in San Francisco


(Throwback Thursday 2010)

Here are Today’s Top 10 Fun Free Friday Things to do Around San Francisco

1. Span -Walk across the Golden Gate Bridge (Vista Point closed  to carsSuper Bowl Week)

2. Make a Fort – Explore the Presidio, Fort Point, Fort Mason, and Fort Baker

3. Click -take a photo journey to the Mission District and photograph the unique murals

4. Play – Continue a Day of Play: jigsaw puzzles, charades, movie marathons, football…

5. Explore– Walk around your neighborhood. Meet a neighbor – or two…

6. Shift Gears – Go for a bike ride, stroll, hike,  pack a backpack /picnic…Scale 28th /Ortega 

7. Merge -Movies have a Movie Night/ Potluck with other friends watch all DVD’s go to the library and get new ones…

8. Step it Up– Research the famous staircases and steps of San Francisco – Get the book – at the library and start with the first walk

9. Pack – A picnic with some of those leftovers and hit the beach, forest, park and simply relax…

10. Purge – During the football marathon, clean out closets. Men’s clothing can be donated to “Out of the Closet” at California at Polk Street (free drop-off parking lot) Women’s  can go to the excellent woman’s shelter, Casa de las Madres, via the Community Thrift store on Valencia St.golden-gate-bridge-482664__180

Fact: Women love men who help

Listen up, men.

Women like it when you open the door for them.

They swoon when you open the car door for them

They love it when you walk on the outside.

We are far from helpless..but we love a guy who helps.

We especially love a guy who is free, smart, results oriented,clever and can fix our Apples and Androids. Enter: Ben Patterson

Ben Patterson is the author and Star of a fabulous blog that really helps!

Here’s the thing: It is a gold mine of terrific tips regarding your iPhone, iPad, iPod,Mac and ‘driods.

See  “Heres the thing”



“I’ve been covering gadgets and technology for more than 17 years. Before launching here’s the thing, I was the Gadget Hound blogger on Yahoo! News. My articles have also appeared in TIME, All You, PC Magazine, PCWorld, Wired, Men’s Fitness, Computer Shopper, Mobile Magazine, Mac|Life, and more. Previously, I was a senior editor at CNET and Editor-in-Chief of InfoSync World. I started my career in the early 90’s as a reporter at The Reporter, a daily newspaper in Vacaville, California—and back then, hardly anyone had a cell phone, much less an iPhone.”


Check out Here’s the Thing

San Francisco: dating paradise?

guys i datesdSan Francisco – a world class city – is replete with more hills, hotels, and restaurants than any other city.

Don’t Call it Frisco

Since the Gold Rush, hoards of kids have flocked to San Francisco for myriad reasons; jobs, parties, freedom, music, the arts, the Summer of Love, Dot Commmies, a Silicon Vally escape, vacations and getaways.

Timeless and enduring – the City has more fun things to do on a date than any other. You will never hear, “There is nothing to do.”



First Dates: too many places to frolic? Ride a cable car half-way to the stars, explore the four glamorous hotels on Nob Hill and walk the labyrinth at Grace Cathedral; walk over to the other cathedral – St. Mary’s on Geary and Gough and drop into Japantown for lunch and then a 38 Geary bus ride to the Ocean. Explore Land’s End, and climb up to the Palace of Legion of Honor.

Climb to Coit Tower, spend hours traversing Golden Gate Park, the Presidio, the beaches, museums, famous neighborhoods,  monuments, bars and restaurants beyond compare.


Ghosts of parties past: Some of us grew up at  Enrico’s, Ernie’s, Vanessi’s, Doro’s, Paoli’s, The Blue Fox, Blum’s and Trader Vic’s on Cosmo Place.

In 1973, The City had 207 bookstores (French, Italian, German,Irish, Russian, Spanish, Chinese, Japanese, Hebrew, Cinema, Radical, Art) of every size, shape and chapter. You don’t want know how few bookstores we have now.

How many hills San Francisco? See here


Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.
Marilyn Monroesaint-ignatiusUSF

Just Another Day

Rocky relationship? Four letter word solution


Dear Page Larkin

Help! I am 50+, lived in Oakland and work for in retail for major department store. Mr. Right is 70 and lived in San Francisco. He is retired and makes a whopper of Wampum writing Yelp reviews. We are in love.

After dating for eight months- and spending every weekend and holiday together, we decided living apart was too expensive, involved too much driving and we wanted to live together full-time. His condo was too tiny my apartment was too crowded for two.

Love conquers all?

We found the perfect cottage in Berkeley, signed the lease and moved in a month later. Weekends were like a honeymoon. On Monday mornings, I get up and go to work and leave him to revel in our little rose-covered cottage, with a fountain bubbling in the backyard, birds singing in the trees, Peet’s coffee is close. The Gourmet Ghetto – a short jaunt away.

 As a ghostwriter – he has plenty of clients and even more down time. I work in HR and am constantly putting out fires, hiring and firing, and training- children. The staff we hire all twenty-somethings with a cavalier attitude towards work, showing up, being on time. “Etiquette” is a foreign French word they, generally, have never grasped.Several new employees were baffled by the fact they can’t wear their pajamas and Uggs to work. Go figure- in a department store.

 Lucky for me, each night, Mr. Right has a glass of wine and a small hors d’oeuvre waiting for me in the garden. He loves to cook and spoils me. Sounds like perfection, right?

There is one small problem, he snores and talks in his sleep. In the beginning, I thought it was so cute: the darling little rumblings and ramblings he would utter while sleeping. The snoring was curbed with a little elbow to the ribs and he would turn over, the snoring would cease. In our new home – one bedroom – we are closer than we have ever been -many hours a day, every day of the week.

I’ve done a lot of research to find out there is a surgery that one can have to cure snoring and there’s also the very expensive sleep machine… both of these sound like good solutions to a very noisy problem. What should I do?

Dear Marcy at Macys,

Isn’t it romantic? Your story-rife with romance and a rose-covered cottage is delightful and the cacophony of snores from Mr Right isn’t unique. Some of my best friends…

Your simple solution is a four-letter word: CPAP

It is said, a CPAP machine has saved more marriages than Dr. Phil.

Continuous Positive Airway Pressure (CPAP) is the leading therapy for sleep apnea. Patients wear a face or nasal mask during sleep. The mask, connected to a pump, provides a positive flow of air into the nasal passages in order to keep the airway open.

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Check it out! And let me know how that works for you.                                                      Love, Page


For help with your suddenly single and dating queries – send a question to

The Dating Un-Bucket List- Top 10 Tips

golden-gate-bridge-482664__180The Dating Un-Bucket List

 Ramona is 50+ and happy to Suddenly Single and dating in 2016.

 She will admit to having kissed a couple of frogs and to have met a passel of men she liked – she dated – and both agreed to call it a “friendship and nothing more.” Next!

As she swings through the Dating Jungle, Ramona has created her Dating Un-Bucket List.

Her Top 10 List is based on the premise: Life is short and I won’t settle.

  1. I won’t sit by the phone or the computer waiting for a man to reach out. I will be proactive and flirt – early and often.
  2. I won’t respond to a man who sends me a blurry photo of him hiding behind sunglasses and a big hat.
  3. I won’t be impressed with anyone who sends a canned greeting (Hello Angel, does God know you left heaven?)
  4. I won’t meet anyone for a date in a parking lot, a bowling alley, or the Indy 500.
  5. I won’t kiss and tell, but I might kiss again. And, again.
  6. I won’t hesitate to delete rude grumps, grouches, less than honest forthright people from my life.
  7. I won’t waste time with people who see the glass as chipped, broken or empty.
  8. I won’t miss the opportunity for a hug or a kiss. Holding hands is a priority.
  9. I promise I won’t wear Crocs, Uggs, Sweats, fanny-packs,  flannel nighties, shoulder pads, granny glasses or acid wash jeans. And, I won’t date a guy with a proclivity for all of the above.
  10. I won’t let anyone rain on my parade. Life is a cabaret. I will sing and dance like my hair is on fire.


Kick It


Sarah Palin: What size Levi fits? Tell Oprah

PicMonkey CollageThrowback Thursday (Deja vu From November 2009)

Who is wearing the Levi’s in your family?

TiVo’s all over America are being programmed to record the Oprah Show with best-selling author, Sarah Palin. Author? The same woman who was stumped by Katie Couric’s intimidating question about which newspapers or magazines she reads daily? She, who responded with a flustered response along   the lines of:  ‘Oh, lots of them’, has written a hefty 400 page book?

Months after John McCain was able to extricate himself from his running mate, Sarah Palin has written a tell-all book. With words, no pictures.

On today’s show, surely Oprah will default to polite banter about the tell all tome and then Oprah will gleefully dive into the hot topic: all about Levi’s.

Levi Johnston, the 19-year-old father of Palin’s grandson, is reveling in his 15 minutes of fame and is telling Wasilla tales out of Alaska. Apparently, a small army of PR zealots have been “handling” young Levi. He is involved in multiple makeovers, personal trainers, photo shoots, and guest appearances. Is Levi fitting in?  

Concensus: nice kid, but silk purse and sow’s ear come to mind.


Who knows? It’s a kinder, gentler time. This time around, Sarah Palin may go rouge…all that talk about lipstick and Pygmalion.

“The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.”

Albert Einstein


Friends or Beau?



Friends or Beau?

Ask a woman to name her Top 10 Favorite Chick Flicks and you will see a distinctive pattern: Girl meets boy- resolves conflicts – falls madly in love – lives happily ever after.

We are such stuff that dreams are made of… We love romance, affection, tenderness, adoration, amor, soft and sensuous, the ribald and the risqué big-time flirtations on the big screen.

Today’s Top 10 Best Chick Flicks

  • The Notebook
  • Something’s Got to Give 
  • Sweet Home Alabama
  • Serendipity
  • Pretty in Pink
  • Four Weddings and a Funeral
  • Gone with the Wind
  • Love, Actually
  • Going on 30
  • Notting Hill

Friends or Beau? Friends First!

 In Reality World, as you traverse the streets of romance looking for your love, you encounter a parade of possibilities: a few No Ways, a few Perhaps and, if you are lucky an Absolutely! Yes!


In her 20’s, Bette shyly admits she was a veritable gold medal winner in Bed Hopping. She claims it was age-appropriate and the Age of Aquarius.

She is now 40-something, twice-divorced and serious about meeting her date for life.

Her sterling advice to single women everywhere is: Friends First- Lovers later – take it slow and easy.



Best Advice of the Day: From the coolest friendships comes the warmest love. Slow down and enjoy the ride.


Witness Protection

Caution! Too much, too soon, too fast: dating a widow

(Today’s letters from readers: Cautionary tales: The problem with widows)

The Candy Store Mentality of Dating

Dear Page,

Just as I was about to quit, a hearty and hale man from San Francisco contacted me. While he was much older than I am, his picture was okay, his profile was well written, and his interests matched some of mine.   There was just one glaring red flag: he was a recent widow.

Throwing caution to the wind, I responded to his e-mail.

We seem to get along, agreed to speak on the phone and met for coffee.  I fell hook, line, and sinker for this guy. I’ve met a parade of losers on Match. He was different. Turns out, his wife died- after a lengthy illness—a month earlier

I know, Page, you say to stay clear of singles that are still “in mourning.” Well, as it turns out this guy is like a kid in a candy store. He’s never seen and met so many single women in 40 years. He dropped me like a hot potato. I’m ready to quit this!

Laverne in La Granada


Dear Laverne,

Thanks for sharing your experience- a very common story in singles world.

Before you throw in the dating towel, contact me at sign up for a one-hour consultation- and let’s get you back in the game.

Peace, Page


Dear Page Larkin,

Help! My 72-year-old father has just signed up for

We buried my mother- his wife of 50 years -less than two months ago and already wants to start dating. I peeked at his dating profile, he brags about his mansion, his fast cars, and the clubs he belongs to. Any gold digger could spot him a mile away. I’m concerned he’s going to get taken advantage of by some calloused creature. I’ve heard stories. Can you help?

The Attentive daughter


Dear Attentive daughter,

You have every right to be concerned- your father is a way over the top by revealing so much personal information You’re right, there are ruthless dating scammers on the lookout for people just like your father.

Please contact me; if he is open to it, we can set up a consultation. I would be happy to work with your father get his discreet profile in good working order.

Peace, Page


 Happy New Year. Did you “resolve”  to try online dating in 2016?

Tell me about your love life. Do you need some help and encouragement as you navigate online dating? Drop  me a line:

The best is yet to come.

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