Yes, Virginia, tis the season
to be flirting.
In my small rural hometown, most people say ‘hello,’ and ‘good morning,’ and ‘hey’ as they get to work and play in the morning. Eye contact is involved.
People wave and nod to one another. Men and women both hold the door for one another. You hear the word “thanks” a lot.
I think there’s more hand-holding in that small town, per capita, than there is in all of San Francisco. They say in San Francisco there’s more emphasis placed on career success, than (sit down, drink optional) relationship success. What’s up with that?
No, Virginia, this more convivial behavior is not Amish, Quaker or Mormon. It’s just another mindset. Maybe it’s a throwback to the 1950’s.
It is very Mid West.
San Francisco needs more smiling, flirting, and mistletoe
Why do you suppose merely “being friendly” is so foreign in San Francisco?
After a week of this time-travel-world, I recently returned to the City. As my luggage came off the carousel, I was forced back onto the merry-go-round of San Francisco, where we go so fast, we miss meeting one another.
Slow down, put that down and smile at someone, Now.
We’re texting, Twittering, we’re Linkedin and were on Face book, and on variation of matchme.com. We belong to social clubs, gyms, book clubs, bike clubs, chess clubs or teams of some sort. And still, it is like two ships passing in the aisle at Bryan’s, Safeway or Trader Joe’s.
Did you ever think that just as you’re going out the side door of the store- with exactly the same carefully selected food items in your recyclable bag - that your doppelganger is about to buy the same carefully selected items? And, she or he, too, will walk out, alone, with their recyclable bags?
Did we both just work out, see the same film, and go out to dinner with single friends? What are the chances we run, hike, ride, walk, stroll, or spelunk in the exact same location, at different times?
The Playground of Life
Whether you are on a merry-go-round, a slide, or a teeter-totter, you have to admit: it a bizarre time to be at the Singles Playground. I’ll go out on a limb- unless the ground rules change to involve more people saying ‘hey’ ‘hello’ and ‘good morning’, we will all be living single, solitary, parallel lives.
So close and yet, so far away.
If ever there was a time to be jolly and bright – now is the time.
Starting today: smile and say “hey” to five people (read: persons of the opposite sex sans wedding ring). Repeat. Daily. Speak to people in line at the store, on MUNI, in a cafe.
Resolve to have fun this holiday season, start today.
Get mistletoe – wear it on your lapel, on your hat- and hang it over every door you can …
I say play hard and work soft. Flirt often and carry a big smile.
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