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After the Break Up:Top Four Tips for Moving On

Move on, dream on, dream big

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Okay, life happens.

So you got temporarily toppled by a rocky, challenging chapter in life

(a separation, divorce, break-up, hiccup- call it what you will.)

At one point, friends may tell you it is time to get back on the horse.   Oh,you’ve never ridden a horse?

Okay, time for a new metaphor: get back on the bike. What? You say the sleek and fancy, tres cher, Titanium (too Specialized? Too Trek-y?)  bike with tires as thin as black licorice intimidate you?  You prefer a pastel pink Schwinn bicycle with fat tires and pink streamers flying in the wind? Take it at your own speed.

Get Back in the Dating Game

Whatever mode you decide upon – it is time to dream big and move on. Sure, your heart might have been hurt or shattered. Take the time to do the grieving; stick pins in the voo doo doll; write in your journal; take long walks and short naps and snap out of it.

You can do this. It’s time to take the shroud off your heart and get out there and dabble in the Suddenly Single Playground of Life, aka Dating World.

Top Four Tips for Moving On and Into a Real Social Life

#1. Get out. You aren’t going to meet anyone in your living room. Get out of the house.

#2. Go where the action is: – not the library, not the far left front pew at church or synagogue. See Top 10 Places to Meet Men.

#3. Tell all your friends you are ready to date. Sign up for online dating – today, the top three sites are,, and the glacially slow and methodical, EHarmony. They spend more money on advertising than the next 10 sites, combined. There are hundreds of sites –buyer beware as you review some of the more bizarre – fly by night-  dating sites.

Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter:

Catholic Date is too Opus dei…and OMG, is too trippy. is rife with ethical  problems, and the infamous Ashley Madison is the adultery niche market. Any dating site with the word “adult” in it the title will not be PG-17.

#4. Flirt Often. Once you are on – up and running on a dating site – for the best results you must: Flirt three times every day.  Send a short – one line note to – three different people – every day. What to say? Easy:  “Enjoyed reading your profile. We have some things in common. Take a look. Hope to hear from you.”

Make it simple, succinct, polite, and inviting. Go ahead – give it a whirl… Leave Heartbreak Hotel and move into happier spaces and places.

The best half of your life is waiting.

I believe that it’s better to be looked over than it is to be overlooked.   Mae West

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you imagined.” Henry David Thoreau

All Page Larkin Dating@50 Examiner articles © 2012 by Page Larkin; r

Top 10 reasons he is going to ask you out again

First and Foremost







 Top Ten Reasons Date #2 is a given…

1. You look exactly like your photographs and he says, “Your pictures don’t do you justice.”

2. You offered to pay half – you are obviously thoughtful and evolved.

3. You laughed – with each other – a lot. Comfort level established.

4. You both had one drink – hey, first date.

5. They are as tall or taller than you (this may/may not matter)

6.You felt comfortable and at ease with each other

7. You have things in common: similar taste in sports, books, food, movies, dogs, skydiving, etc

8 You both have had ‘challenges’ in life and survived nicely.

9. You each have an “amusing” Internet dating story. And can laugh about it.

10 You both had fun and were relaxed and are looking forward to the next date.

“Women desire men’s desire of them” Freud

Dance lessons? Gentlemen, start your dance cards…

May I have this dance? Girls like boys who dance

It’s not a secret – women flock to dance classes- it’s what we do …

Looking for a few good men…cha cha cha

Salsa, cha cha, tango, waltz and West Coast Swing are the rage. Again.

Perhaps “Dancing with the Stars” has inspired some of the floods of singles signing up for dance classes. Maybe not.

Boogie by the Bay-the consummate West Coast Swing event of the year, a three-day marathon of dancing, workshops, lectures, lessons and more dancing until the cows come home. The energetic event was a magnet for hundreds of dancers and want-to-be-dancers.

Kids as young as 12 and as mature as 80, pranced, danced in the multiple ballrooms at the Burlingame Hyatt Hotel. They began the Beguine each morning at ten o’clock sharp and hustled to the dance floor to quick step, drive, swing, step, step, twirl and whirl while they  tripped the light fantastic. Dancers reveled until after three o’ clock in the morning.

The Left Coast is the Best Coast

West Coast swing and champion, teacher and icon, Kelly Casanova – was in the house. Casanova is two-time US Open Swing Dance Champion, national instructor & judge, and award recipient of the California Swing Dance Hall of Fame. Casanova displays an enormous talent, humor and style. She taught the first workshop of the day to over 100 passionate (experienced) and petrified (beginner) dancers. She encouraged, inspired, and entertained the energetic dancers.

Beginner? Her classes in Mill Valley, Santa Rosa and Emeryville are absolutely user-friendly and very popular.

Women Love Men Who Dance

It’s not a secret: from the lines in the loo, to the buffet, and the midnight dessert run, women all heartily agreed; men who dance are a lot more fun and a lot more interesting.

Marin County Writer, Producer and  Filmmaker, Mary Keill’s Indie movie, “Swing” stars Jacqueline Bisset and a small galaxy of stars anda bevy of local dancers. A great film – all about Swing, dreams, dancing, drama- a gem. Look for it.

The Take away: Gentlemen start your lessons: Take beginner lessons, have fun and practice, practice, practice.

Three Local Hot Spots for dancing

Go out in the world and work like money doesn’t matter, Sing as if no one is listening, Love as if you have never been hurt, and Dance as if no one is watching”

San Francisco Dating@50 Examiner, Page Larkin, welcomes your feedback, questions

Pink Martinis and the Hollywood Bowl – the best date ever

Once upon a time: a tale of two cities and the perfect date with music and martinis

He told her to be his house in San Francisco at 7:00 a.m. with running shoes and to be prepared for a surprise involving an airplane jaunt, a saber tooth tiger and a pink martini- and to bring a dress for dinner and a show.

The first surprise was when Super Shuttle arrived at 7:30 a.m. and whisked them away to SFO. She happily agreed to be open to a day of surprises. He called it their ‘Cinderella day.’ He alluded to a full 12 hours of fun and new adventures.
Timing is Everything

Jan and Mike met on JDate three months earlier and clicked instantly. Ironically, both were ‘lapsed Lutherans’ who were “looking for love in all the wrong places” until they each enrolled on JDate. Both struck out on Eharmony and decided to try a new tribe. Serendipitously, on the very same day, they decided to check out the new dating site, they met on line.

They shared a passion for Zydeco music, Greece, photography and every book written by Pat Conroy. If nothing else, JDate is the master marketing machine for dating and connecting. The two admit to wading through a few so-called “perfect matches” then, bingo, they connected and clicked. Three months and many dates later, they were blissfully flying to Los Angeles together.

He got ridiculously cheap airline tickets to LA and arranged to have his brother, Gary, the out of work actor, to pick them up and play chauffeur and tour guide. She packed her camera, an arsenal of Trader Joe’s snacks, and bejeweled ballet slippers and a crinkly, little black dress that folded up to the size of a CD.

The piece d résistance, Mike revealed he had won two tickets to Pink Martini at the Hollywood Bowl. Earlier that summer, while at the Shakespeare Festival in Ashland, he won a drawing for two free tickets to the concert and Backstage passes from KOBI TV in Medford. Life is good.

Get Me to the Getty on Time

First stop: the Getty Museum for the highly touted ‘Engaged Observers: Documentary Photography since the Sixties’ exhibit. They spent a quick two hours at the vast museum, and had to tear themselves away from the impressive photography.

Gary, never met an audience he didn’t like, was delighted to play chauffeur for his brother and date. Their next surprise stop was the famed La Brea Tar Pits. When she was 12, Jan’s family had explored the magic kingdom, Disneyland and the dreary Tar Pits. Jan was amazed by the new  museum, the excellent displays and the wall of hundreds of saber tooth tiger skulls.

Gary took them to his favorite hole-in-the-wall Thai restaurant in Hollywood where they feasted and changed into dress clothes and excitedly drove to the famous and awesome Hollywood Bowl. Gary said he knew some people at the Bowl, would park the car, hike back and see if he could score SRO ticket.

As Smooth as a Pink Martini

Jan, a very big big fan of Pink Martini, had always loved “Sunday Table” a romantic song written by China Forbes and Thomas Lauderdale about that moment where you pass a stranger on the street have a split second love affair. Bonus, that night the “special guests” were Rufus Wainwright, Jane Powell, Air Shapiro and  the original cast of Sesame Street.

The concert was beyond their expectations. Jan and Mike loved every moment and every song. After the  best concert ever, they were like kids going backstage to mingle and ogle. Jan was thrilled to talk to handsome and debonair, Emilio Delgado – Luis from Sesame Street. Her college-aged daughters would swoon over the photo of her and their all-time, very favorite Sesame Street denizen. All too soon, Gary whisked the two back to the airport and before they knew it, Jan and Mike were on Super Shuttle and back in the City. Jan told Mike she did feel like Cinderella and he really was a prince and charming.

Tell me about your perfect date.
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