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Full Moon madness? Saturday Night Dec 10th

Top Ten Ways to Have More Fun This Weekend with a full moon

Saturday Night, December 10 –

A Full Moon makes some people Change:  get wild,  get uninhibited, and Embrace Change

  1. Change your Attitude: buck up, Binkie, See the Full Moon? Decline the recliner: It’s time to go out and play.
  2. Change your altitude:Go bungee jumping with Icarus  try indoor skydiving, take a helicopter ride; Fly high in a blimp.
  3. Change your Dating site if you feel like you’re bombing out at Eharmony or try something new: Perfect Match. Try the seven-day free trial before signing up. Free? Cruise Craigslist; some dating clubs (i.e Let’s have Dinner for Six) may cost you $2500 to join – Plenty of Fish and OkCupid are still free, take a peek.
  4. Change your Hair Color- Do blondes have more fun? Ask Liz at Jackson Place Salon she is a colorist and stylist extraordinaire. Need a new hairdo and a new look? Liz is your go-to-girl.
  5. Change your Mind: time to get out of the rut into the groove: go scuba diving or snorkeling, swim with sharks or the famed San Francisco Dolphin’s Feel bullish? Ride a mechanical bull. Try fire-walking, quickly; go white water rafting. Segue into a Segway.
  6. Change your Oil: Do yourself a favor: get thee to Sunset 76 at Noriega /24th Avenue It’s the go-to-place for honest, professional, and efficient service: Smog and oil changes? Hey, it’s got to be done, why not make it easy?
  7. Change your Sandwich: Giordano Brothers –  a bustling North Beach sports bar serves towering Philly style sandwiches stuffed with French fries-  it’s lively, friendly, and fun.
  8. Change your Bridge- Skip the 150,000 people at Outside Lands Music and Arts Festival and go to the Berkeley Trifecta: 900 Grayson  for brunch, Berkeley Bowl for splendid shopping and Uncommon Grounds for great coffee – oh- IKEA is so close.
  9. Change your Happy Hour – It’s all done with smoke and mirror at Smoking Martini Madness South Harbor Waterfront Restaurant and bar in South San Francisco. The very blissful happy hour means  appetizers at 50% off
  10. Change your mood: See the phenomenally entertaining Oakland Intefaith Gospel Choir

Action and reaction, ebb and flow, trial and error, change – this is the rhythm of living. Out of our over-confidence, fear; out of our fear, clearer vision, fresh hope. And out of hope, progress.      Bruce Barton

San Francisco Date Night – Bridge and Tunnelers

They’re Coming!

Over the bridges and through the tunnels…

They come, seduced by the Siren’s song of concerts, bright lights, the ice rink in Union Square, comedy clubs, theater, and a galaxy of two and three star restaurants. They leave the predictability and the vast free parking lots of the suburbs and head for the bright lights and sophistication of the City.

Uniformly Unique

She is brushed, buffed and shiny. Women of an age wear the classic Eileen Fisher uniform. Big price tag, clean lines, sensual fabrics; add the requisite, chunky, expensive necklace. It’s the au courant uniform of choice. A designer handbag, the size of a small suitcase, is the result of a ubiquitous knock-off purse party or the real deal. He wears the guy’s uniform: a Tommy Bahamas shirt, Tony Soprano – like slacks and Italian tasseled-loafers. Swathed in layers of wool coats, scarves, and gloves, they brace themselves.

There goes the neighborhood

The $6 Golden Gate Bridge / $5 Bay Bridge entrance fee to the City is only the beginning (ka-ching! sound of cash register ringing). Parking meters ($.25 buys two minutes) inhale quarters. Parking lots ($16 for three hours) and free valet parking ($20 service charge) are deemed highway robbery. So they pull their lips over their teeth with that faux grin and start counting. Is it worth it?

Who knew the hot, haute, hot new restaurant was in the unpredictable Tenderloin? And, the theater, too? They had to wade through a battalion of beggars. They were perplexed and chagrined to see doorways filled with men, in sleeping bags, asleep on piles of cardboard.

At Cafe de la Depressing, the lentil soup was $9. When did entrees skyrocket to $30? A trendy Thai (Got cha now?) restaurant charges $8 for a cup of imported red rice. Pricey rice? In Rice a Roni land? One drink at the hotel lobby bar was $16. Theater tickets? Priceless, because they refuse to admit what they paid for them. It was a play about a goat.

Home again, home again

The Bridge and Tunnelers are torn. Can they admit a trip to San Francisco was tedious, depressing and exorbitant? They found the restaurants too rich for their blood. The streets were dirty and a small army of homeless was sleeping in doorways. Parking was a nightmare and getting out of the jam-packed garage felt like Sisyphus – going nowhere fast.

As they pulled into their own garages, the Over the Bridge through the Tunnelers are relieved and relaxed to be home and they wonder: what ever to happened to San Francisco?

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The first date: are you brave enough?

You’ve seen them at the Boulange, Peet’s and Starbucks.

You can tell.

She walks in, looking around for a complete stranger. She glances at the faces of every male in the room – seriously hoping her first date-guy  looks like the photo he posted online.
When the ‘closest facsimile’ waves her over to his table, with a broad smile, she cautiously walks over to join him. She is still walking on thin ice and treading lightly. You notice they both have fake and cautious smiles plastered on their faces, half nervous, half curious.
Both are quickly adjusting to the “First-Meeting Sticker Shock.” Their minds are racing like a deck of shuffling cards.
Best-case inner dialogue could be: “Phew. Wow. What a relief!  They look exactly like the photo”.

Or worst-case scenario, both parties -with frozen smiles and minds racing with thoughts like: “What was I thinking? What a mistake. OMG. How can I get out of this? How long do I have to stay?  Check please.”

At worst, you  wasted 30 minutes…try, try, again.

Next time: ask more questions; exchange a couple more emails; talk on the phone.

Yes, skip texting – speak  to the person before actually meeting. There is no obligation to meet anyone. anytime.

It’s a Dance

You have to admire people who take the plunge, who get out there and do the dating dance. Some days, it’s like a waltz – other times it’s the Twist…or a jitterbug- fast and frenetic. When two hearts and minds collide and match – that’s the best.

Writing Profiles in Courage?

For every couple grimacing through the awkward stages of meeting somebody for coffee for the first time, there are hundreds of us sitting at home pretending to be satisfied with watching TV with a cat, surfing the web and all that other single, solitary, alone stuff.

Bravo to the brave of heart who wear their hearts on their sleeves and get out there and make the effort to meet somebody new. Gold Medals all around for the brave and the few. It’s a brave new world?

Why not put your single big toe into the Dating Game?

Today is the first day of the rest of your social life. Get out there and have fun.
Put these on  Post-it notes:
” When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.” François de la Rochefoucauld
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. You are the guy who’ll decide where to go.” – Dr. Seuss

Sweet San Francisco treats- first date ideas

First date? Avoid the mundane

and the predictable: kick it up a notch.

Meeting at Starbucks for a coffee-date lacks imagination. If you’re meeting someone for a business deal, Starbucks is fine: predictable, consistent and dull. If you’re meeting somebody for the proverbial coffee- date, pull out the stops- get creative.

San Francisco has a kaleidoscope of choices for fun and unique coffee shops:

Check out Bob’s Donuts on Polk Street or the famed North Beach institution, Cafe Trieste, or you might want to get a cup of exceptional Blue Bottle coffee with six stores around the City. However, for a real kick, head over to Dynamo Donuts.

A Sweet Deal

Sure, Bob’s Donut’s has been a sweet hangout for people wanting top-of-the-line donuts for decades. The newest jewel in the carb crown is Dynamo Donuts and Coffee. Tongues are wagging and people are salivating over the much talked about $3.00 donuts at Dynamo in the Mission District.

The Maple Glazed Apple Bacon donut (yes, bacon) is a sell out- as is the unique Lemon Pistachio donut. Seriously, the Chocolate Rosemary Almond donut is ever so yummy. If you are going to eat donuts- the go-to sweet shop in the City is Dynamo Donut – a very happening place. Your date will be impressed.

One Lump or Two?

Forget funky. The old Formica tabletops and hand made signs on the wall coffee shop is, okay, -eclectic – and not a great first impression. Rather: check out the elegant Sugar Lump. Called the “best looking java shop.” Sugar Lump Coffee Lounge is famous for exceptional organic coffee – and an impressive menu including delicious empanadas (mushroom, spinach, California veggie, smoked tofu chorizo & potato) Tres elegant.

I Scream – You scream

Since you are in the neighborhood – just down the block from Dynamo is another marvelous Mecca for sweets- the ice cream store extraordinaire: Humphrey Slocombe.  Want the best coffee ice cream date ever? Try the delicious Blue Bottle Vietnamese coffee ice cream. Each day the  dozen gourmet and unusual (Foie gras, really?)  ice cream flavors change.

Still not impressed? Spoon into  a very special “Hot Mess” – a melange of Vanilla ice cream, butterscotch, bananas, topped with a cloud of Marshmallow fluff. 

More? Want more? Try a “Gabba Gabba Hey”  consisting of a dreamy Balsamic caramel ice cream, and ayummy brownie, served with Amarena cherries, topped with real whipped cream. What’s not to like?

Remember you can only make one first impression, make your ‘coffee-date’ a memory maker.

“Coffee makes it possible to get out of bed.  Chocolate makes it worthwhile.”

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