New to online dating? Sample free sites: Craigslist
Is Craigslist your Cupid?
Craigslist is an easy, first step in online dating. If you have gathered the courage and decided to explore online dating, it’s important to do some cogent research.
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Craig’s is user-friendly, accessible, and entertaining. Any good dating coach worth their salt will tell you to take a stroll down the aisles of Craigslist and scrutinize “Men seeking women/ Women seeking men” categories in your age group. Peruse a couple dozen personal ads. Take it all with a grain of salt.
Curious? What caught your eye: a clever headline or pithy prose?
Maybe it was it the honest, direct and forthright writing style? Keep reading. Next, take a look at the ads in New York City, Chicago and Los Angeles. Compare and contrast the style and the messages. You’ll notice, immediately, that San Francisco has a distinctive flair and style. Be prepared to encounter some very well-crafted entertaining ads and some less than imaginative (okay, crass) missives.
Free: Everyone’s Favorite Price?
One reason Craigslist is so popular is the price: free. Do you get what you paid for? Like Plenty of Fish and OkCupid, the two other leading free dating sites, the ‘free factor’ does attract an element – you may wish to avoid.
Another reason for Craigslist huge popularity is the big “Anonymous factor”.
The vast majority of posters refrain from posting a photo. And, frankly, one never knows if the information posted is authentic or accurate. There are those who troll and trawl the halls of Craigslist – sending off an inane comment now and then.
You will quickly learn the phrase “your pic gets mine” is part of the site’s vocabulary and a good modus operandi.
To place a Craigslist ad requires little time and a little imagination. Typical ads on Craigslist are 50 words – or less. Best advice? Choose your words carefully and take your time. Try it once or twice, or not at all.
Many happy people have connected on Craigslist. Don’t hurry. Exchange the emails, speak on the phone – at length- ask questions and, if there is a comfort level established, meet for coffee in a very public place.
It’s an experience and remember, no matter what the price: buyer beware.
“Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes
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