Online dating- there are two kinds of guys: The first guy is of the candy store mentality: Booya! Life is a buffet. Let me put you in my little black book – I’ll call ya!
We’ll call him Phil Anderer.
Then there is the more patient, sincere guy – more of a one relationship at a time – sweet and attentive; women call him Prince Charming.
Eventually, Roger- the 62 year old, suddenly-single dating neophyte – was dating,
Sally was a “perfect match’ and he was enjoying her company and movies, music, exploring San Francisco and the companionship.
His buddy, Bid Daddy ( aka Mike B from law school days) invited him to join a Marin men’s group. It was an intense knot of over-achievers, trust fund boys, and a few strikingly handsome metro-sexuals (who would later espouse the need for facials, eyebrow-shaping, and a wardrobe of eyeglass) who talked about their feelings and treating women-all women (wives, lovers, trysts,) with respect.
Big Daddy- a self-appointed coach- took Roger by the hand and guided him. He readily shared his well-honed philosophy on life, love, community, and the basic human need for a variety of sexual partners. He reminded his conservative pal, that after 30 years with the same woman, it was time to make up for lost time. Life was a buffet – he encouraged his Roger to dive in. Big Daddy would show him the way.
Although very enamored with Sally, whom he had been happily dating for weeks – he was taken with the idea of a lazy Susan of sexual partners.
Meanwhile, back at the commune
Big Daddy’s unusual living arrangement had Roger imagining a Bob, Ted, Carol, and Alice scenario: bed hopping, one-night stands and casual trysts. Roger thought it sounded delicious. They did a walk-through of the property. Roger was impressed by the organic vegetable garden, the meditation rooms, the vast hot tub, fire pits near the deck, a sauna for 10, and a remarkable, sunken living room with wall-to-wall mattresses. Big Daddy called it the “Party Room.” There were solar panels on every building and lots of hugs and kisses as Roger met ‘The Crew. Everyone hugged and kissed. Nice.
Like a Black Lab, panting with excitement, Roger wanted to know where to sign up.
And so it began…
Being an ethical man – in all fairness, Roger felt like he had to share his new lifestyle opportunity with Sally.
In a perfect world, she would be part of his harem.
He would break the news that night after dinner.